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RE: 'Normalising' Discussion Of The Experience Of Child Sexual Abuse & "A Layman's Guide To Loving A Survivor Of CSA" (link to doc)
Thank you for writing this. I'm suddenly aware now how much of an impact my partner must have felt from the moment I first shared my past with him. I feel rather guilty for dragging him into now, because I always assumed that it was my burden to deal with and that, other than him having a sense of awareness of why I might be uncomfortable with certain sexual advances, it didn't affect him.
I have been the partner of a survivor and I found the 'Layman's Guide to Loving a Survivor of CSA' to be very helpful. I also read a book called Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child.
What reading these did for me was make me aware that I too had issues, and not just my partner. I also learned that unless I dealt with my own issues, these would be triggered by my partner's issues and vice-versa. I would strongly recommend them as reading for partners of Survivors.
Also, The Karma Police podcast episode 8 (http://karmapolice.earth/) may be of interest.
Thank you.