Thank you for such a wonderful reply. :)

I have a friend who is a professional sexologist, and I remember how awkward it was at first within our community when he talked openly about sex. Gradually I started to realize he was being normal, and my thinking was weird. At the same time, I remember the discussions about raising their children, and I had to wonder if the open talk about sex ("Mom and Dad have a sex date tonight, so you are going to stay with your cousins" type stuff) led to other problems and interests which made this more difficult... I don't really know, and it's further complicated by their religious worldview which adds more aspects to the discussion (definitely an abstinence stance there).

It's a complicated thing as a parent to figure out. I don't have answers, but I'm learning all I can from those who have done it well.

Thanks again for such an encouraging, heartfelt response. :)