How to Give a Female an Orgasm

The situation with men and women who can really give a female an orgasm is scandalous. If you ask any girl how many good lovers she had in her entire life – she counts them all by the fingers of one hand. This website and series of articles on sexuality have as a goal radical improvement in this area of life.
If you did not know, an average duration of a sexual intercourse among couples who live together longer than one year is about 7(!) minutes.
No wonder that so many women are unsatisfied and infidelity is such widely spread phenomena.
Although main reasons for infidelity are due to negative social programming - we will concentrate here only on (in)ability to give a female an orgasm.
People tend to do the same thing the same way over and over again. For many, there is just ONE method. They learned it long time ago. They think that their One Bulletproof Method of Satisfying Women ALWAYS works. However, women they meet don't want see them again for some mysterious reasons.
Why? Because there is no such a method. Because becoming good lover is an art form. Any art form includes diversity and inspiration. No two women are alike. It's time to learn new things.
Basic rules on how to give a female an orgasm:
Rule #1: TAKE IT SLOW. VERY SLOW
The key is to understand that this is a slow road. Enjoy every second of that ride. Remember that sexual intercourse is a PROCESS, not a destination.
Most men rush to the finish line like a Formula-1 car. Instead, make everything to take up 5 times as much time. Make your sensual touch slide along her back for a whole minute instead of a few short seconds. Apply this rule to ALL your actions.
Rule #2: COMMUNICATE
Make your woman communicate with you. It is not just important. It is CRUCIAL. Many lesbian couples never ask each other even the simplest things including how sensitive their respective clits are.
As a result, each thinks that her partner’s clit is the same as her own and so she proceeds to handle it as such. However, her partner’s clit is too sensitive for that kind of treatment (or as an opposite - not sensitive at all).
At the end, one or both girls imitate an orgasm and later go alone to the shower to complete the process. Simple talk solves this issue within minutes.
Rule #3: LEARN
Learn how female brain and body work. Your woman is not a light switch. She is a volume knob. Her arousal begins long before you start a foreplay.
Her ability (or inability) to have an orgasm today may be influenced by many factors including but not limited to:
Where is she at her menstrual cycle.
Issues at work.
General emotional state.
Hormones play at her particular age.
Rule #4: TAKE HER PAST INTO ACCOUNT
Her past often has a strong say in the question of how to give a female an orgasm. Psychological traumas, previous boyfriends/girlfriends/one-night stands/teenage experiences often play a significant role.
What do you do here? Be patient. Communicate. Keep learning.
Rule #5: ACHIEVE SEXUAL MASTERY
Learn it FOR REAL. Read, apply, ask for feedback, learn from your mistakes, and apply again.
Spend at least 100 hours in bed with different girls working on various techniques and asking them for feedback. This is how you become an EXCELLENT LOVER.
For beginners, even basics such as not rushing for clitoris in a first two minutes of your foreplay can bring you very far. Know to stay away from erogenous zones for at least half an hour. Build things up.
Rule #6: WATCH FOR SUBTLE SIGNS
Keep your eyes and ears open. Listen to her breath. Watch her subtle moves. When your woman is approaching her climax - she might forget talking to you.
In fact, she forgets the whole world. Let her enjoy the silence if she likes to. Guide yourself by calibrating your actions based on her subtle signals.
Rule #7: SET UP THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT
Make sure the setting is appropriate. She must be able to feel relaxed and excited at the same time. Many will tell you to put on some soft music, burn candles, and dim the lights.
My advice here is to find out what turns HER on. One girlfriend of mine was not able to get an orgasm in any “usual” kind of sphere. Due to her past, she could only fully relax and reach her climax in the shower.
While mastering the art of how to give a female an orgasm - go beyond what mainstream media teaches you. Once you take time to learn those subtle things about your woman – you are on the way to becoming a GREAT LOVER, the rare one. The “keeper.”
Foreplay Tips
These foreplay tips will give you direct advantage over thousands of other lovers. When applied, they will immediately put you in the eyes of any woman into that special category of lovers who are worth keeping for a LOOOONG time.
Most people are so wrapped up in their own egoist pursuits that they take it along into the bedroom too. Trying to steal some pleasure from another and enjoy it without giving much back has become “normal” behavior for many men and women.
However, if you want to keep your partner and yourself satisfied – you have to learn other rules. Here are some priceless basics.
TIP #1: MAKE YOUR FOREPLAY LOOOONG
This is one of those “magic” ingredients that keep your relationship/s alive for years to come. You will feel sexual tension rising long before you enter the bedroom. Long foreplay equals ATTENTION as well as many other good things in her eyes.
This is exactly what so many couples are missing these days. Life imposes rhythms on us and those rhythms are often too fast. People feel like they need to rush through the day. There are so many things to be done.
Planning is tight; checklists are waiting; action guides pressing… Rush, rush, rush…
Stop. Take a deep breath. Think of you lover. Your intimate life deserves better.
It is an island where other rules are valid. Where you take time to meet your intimate partner again and again. Where every encounter means exciting discoveries and re-discoveries of some known and forgotten pleasures. Take your time... Release yourself.
TIP #2: TEASE
Do not give her things she wants straight away. Let her wait a bit for her favorite kiss, touch, penetration. There is so much anticipation built in those 4-5 minutes of delayed pleasure.
It will feel so much more intense and vivid.
Don't go for her favorite deep-tongue kissing right from the start (like you always used to do).
Pull back, give her gentle lips-to-lips kiss, and pay attention... to her neck. Then come back to her lips and tease her with tip of your tongue for a few seconds. Pull back; kiss her arms and only THEN come back with passionate french style tornado.
See how wild she will become. Feel the tension. Dive in it. Flow. Be ravished by the way she enjoys your actions.
TIP #3: USE SENSUAL TOUCHING
Learn to touch her so that she gets excited even when you brush your palm along most non-erogenous parts of her body. Read this article on the art of sensual touching once you finish learning this part of foreplay tips.
It is one of the most important skills that make her distinguish between a masterful lover and an amateur. What category do you want to belong to? Right. I thought so.
Once you will master this art – you will often hear women say very interesting thing about you. You may hear months later that she decided to go with you that very first evening only because you put your arm on hers in “such a special way… like no-one ever did before”.
You may also hear right away, while being in bed and touching her naked arms, “Please do it again, I enjoy it sooooo much”. There will be many, many variations to the above phrases. Invest tiny portion of your time in learning and rip those amazing results for years to come.
TIP #4: PAY ATTENTION TO HER NON-EROGENOUS ZONES
Her non-erogenous zones deserve as much attention as erogenous ones. What are they? Her back, neck, shoulders, her arms, legs, feet…
Applying these foreplay tips, remember that everything else than breast and vaginal area also cries for attention and LOVES being caressed, kissed and admired. Masterful lover knows this and ALWAYS spends enough time there.
Pleasant and unexpected rewards are often direct result of slow and thorough exploration of those areas. Your woman might have never known that backsides of her arms or upper parts of her feet are SOOOO sensitive and make her feel as excited as when you stimulate her breasts or caress her Venus hill.
Every girl is unique and those unexpected magical areas hide in different places. Take your time and give her the gift of discovering them.