RE: Dear Ladies, Own your Sexuality
I think it's far more complex than just societal expectations. For just ONE example, I don't know many women who haven't been sexually abused in some way at a young age. Maybe it's just the type of women I meet or that they feel comfortable talking to me about it... but that type of thing fucks you up solidly, therapy or no in ways that you couldn't possibly understand.
As for me, I very much enjoy my sexuality. I wish that men hadn't always felt entitled to get (or take) sex from me when I was younger just because I went out wit them.
So... yeah, there are a LOT of aspects to sexuality, expressing your sexuality and so on, from both sides. Then you add in cultures, life experiences, the way people are raised and it is just far more complex than "Express yourself"
It's a good conversation to have, but this feels really dismissive when approached this way.
I perfectly understand your point. I don't know how it is for you guys in Europe and America, but for us in Africa, sex is treated as sacred because of religious laws and sanctimonious cultural values.
Over here, we have a warped perception of sex. Our society is still very patriarchal. Very few ladies are expressive about their sexual desires. Adult ladies are taught that sex is a vice and self control is a virtue. Also, the few ones that decide to have sex in someway objectify it. They get to feel really entitled after sex.
My post aims at encouraging adult ladies from these societies to break free from societal constructs and fully own their sexuality.
I get what you're saying (and the religious types here are very much the same), I just thinkt hat the way you said it came across as very judgemental and one sided... it seemed very simplified and that isn't going to help get your point across.