Overlooked Manipulation
For many years I didn't consider myself a manipulator. I thought of myself as someone that was giving and kind, and often taken advantage of or unappreciated by the people around me.
What I have learned after a lot of self-honesty is that I wasn't okay with myself, resulting in me wanting approval from others. I would go out of my way for friends to gain acceptance. I would play whatever part I needed to in order to make the people around me okay with me.
Never disagreeable, buying them things, taking their side... but all of it was manipulation because at the end of the day I wasn't okay with someone not liking me. So I would manipulate everyone around me by being whatever I thought they wanted me to be.
In the end, it resulted in me hating myself more and putting unrealistic expectations on my relationships. If I was good enough, smart enough, nice enough, funny enough, then I would get what I wanted right?..
That isn't how life works.
I have realized it is more important to seek peace within yourself, and to be okay with other people not being okay with you. Have your own beliefs, opinions, and life regardless of what other people are doing.
Welcome! Now that I got you here, I will show you the best part of steemit. PALnet!
@juliakponsford is a good person to ask for help because she’s smart enough to explain it well enough for newbies.
PALnet comes complete with a chat server and you get rewarded in PALcoin for chatting
The chat server is here:
https://discord.gg/kNxM7T6
You can use the same key you used for steemit to log in to https://PALnet.io. It is just another front end with some slight modifications.
There is also busy.org which has much more powerful editing tools.
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Hi there welcome to Steem!
There's a lot to learn here but I will give you a few pointers! The steemit.com interface is really boring, I would suggest using steempeak.com, same content and everything but much prettier to look at, also I suggest you learn a bit about the tokens here. They run on tags, our group is general topic and uses the palnet tag, if you put that on all your posts you can earn extra on top of steem :) There are lots more niche tokens depending on what your posts are about.
I see that Nathan gave you a link for the PAL server, if you have any questions or need help hop on over, or you can just reply here too.
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