We Attract How Others Treat Us

Abraham Hicks Transcript
Published 6/13/15
by Awaken Within on Youtube

Are we always responsible, energy-wise, for the way someone treats us or interacts with us?
Yes, always.
In relationships where you’re interacting with others, especially close-up relationships, it’s harder to accept that you are the creator of your own reality because here’s this other bugger clearly creating and sometimes they offer things to you that don’t feel so good, you’d like to give them some of the credit. In fact many of you would like to give them all of the credit because if they would behave better, you would feel better and we don’t disagree with that but to give up the empowerment that comes from knowing that you attract for the sake of a little relief that blame gives you. We know that sometimes it just feels better to say, “Well if they were nicer I’d feel better”, and it’s true, you would but to say, “It’s up to me to choose the way I feel about all things”, gives you utter empowerment and the more you apply it and play the game of reaching for the positive aspects, the more you realize the creative control you have in your experience.
Esther had a funny experience at the last workshop. She was feeling the flow of the workshop and she was feeling very very good.
Esther got on an elevator with a fun group of women. Someone asked Esther, “What floor would you like?” And Esther said, “Lingerie please.” And all of the other women began to laugh. Esther felt so satisfied as she was bathed in the energy of that laughter. It felt fun that they were playing together. One woman said, “I would like to go to the bargain basement”, and another said, “I want to go to the penthouse”, and another said, “Let’s stop on every floor and just see what’s there”.
And Esther thought, “I started this but I don’t know where it came from and somehow or other we’re just parlaying off each other.” Esther was feeling as if they were friends...being in that place of pure positive energy and whatever they were doing, they were there too and so together they had this moment in time. Anybody who wasn’t there and who wasn’t playing with it would have a hard time feeling the intimacy of it and the fullness of it but Esther got off of the elevator feeling like she had new friends all over the world that she had not even begun to tap the resources and it was easier for her to evoke that perfect moment in time from a room full of strangers than it never would’ve been from a room full of people that she knows because when you get on an elevator or in a life situation with people you know, your expectation of them almost always gives you a repeat of whatever you’ve lived before so there’s something awfully refreshing about evoking newly and discovering the power of your ability to attract. We would encourage you to begin by saying to yourself, “I’m going to start noticing my ability, my power of attraction”, and begin it with strangers. Start playing on elevators, start talking to people in the grocery store, start making a decision that from a place of no expectation, you’re gonna see what your point of attraction is and what you’ll begin to notice is that people are nice to you everywhere. Your point of attraction, when it is absent of negative expectation, is in a very very good place. Wonderful things come from wonderful people everywhere you go. People yield for you in traffic. Esther loves it when she looks in the rear view mirror when she wants to change lanes only to see that someone is blinking their lights at her saying, “I’m waiting for you to come over. Come on over”. And Esther has a little button on her steering wheel where she can blink back which means, “Thank you very much.”
There are people all over the world that are just wanting to dance in a joyful way and when you are as you are and you get into this rhythm of well-being then it shows up everywhere except where you don’t expect it to show up. The tricky thing about what you’re asking here is that you’ve already given a pronouncement. You already sort of know who this person is. You’ve already noted that you don’t quite jive and so you gotta forget that you don’t jive in order to ever jive and what you have to realize or remember is that you have jiving points or matching points with every single human on this planet. There’s not one with whom you have not many more points of harmony than less points of harmony so as you start playing the game with strangers, then you can start playing it with these hard cases so to speak. The thing about deliberate creating and tending to your own vibration is that as you begin to discover you can feel the way you want to feel on purpose and you begin to notice that people begin responding to the way you feel. It becomes more and more apparent that people respond to you in the same way you respond to them. We’ve never seen you have a strong opinion of not liking someone without them having the same strong opinion about you. You have taught one another your vibration and so when you decide that you’re going to change your vibrational stance relative to someone, you have to rebuild your relationship with them from the ground up. You cannot keep repeating what is and change it. You have to start over and the way you start over is by getting a notebook and listing the positive aspects that come to mind most easily and amplifying them in your mind. You have to retrain yourself. You have to learn how to activate a different part of them in you. The thing that’s tricky about deliberate creating is that you don’t think that you were vibrating there before they showed that part to you and in some cases you weren’t. You were born into families, you were hired into situations. There’s a whole lot of stuff going on all around you and as you become an observer of something that you don’t want and you don’t realize that you are early on by feeling the hand on the stove so you don’t withdraw from it, sometimes you let things get activated within you before you’ve even realized that you’ve done it and then it feels like there’s hardly anything that you can do about it because they keep showing it to you, you keep seeing it. And you say, “Well if they’d stop showing it to me, I’d stop seeing it.” And we say, “If you’ll stop seeing it, they’ll stop showing it to you.” And you say, “You mean that characteristic will go away from them?” And we say, “No but they can’t give you one radio station while you’ve activated another.”
So if you, when you’re not with them, are activating other things within you, you will begin bringing different things from them. It depends upon what’s activated within you and the timing of your rendezvous. The timing of your rendezvous has to do with what’s most activated within you. Everyone has many different characteristics so if you work to activate a characteristic that feels good to you, the universe will help you to rendezvous with them when they are ready or able to present that. You’ll help to solicit it from them but they will be more ready on the spot to deliver it anyway. So like meeting with strangers on an elevator that are ready to play, it was all because they were in that vibrational vicinity even before any of them got there. You’re not gonna jump into the middle of something and change the mood of it by intensely holding your focus. Instead what you’re wanting to do is practice it so that you can allow the universe to deliver to you the timing of the rendezvous because there are people out there who are going to have traffic accidents. There are people out there that are going to have playful fits on elevators and how they line up with you has to do not with them as far as you are concerned, only with your vibrational stance. Of course the more playful you are and the more joyful you are then the more you line up with more of those kinds of things. Deliberately intending to interact with a specific individual in a different way than you have before, you have to activate within yourself consistently a different vibration than you have been activating and they will become a different person for you. Are you stepping on their creational toes? No because they are that person anyway. You’re just lining up with a different aspect of them. Sort of like Esther’s relationship with weather. She wants it to rain everywhere she goes so that it is beautiful and the land is happy. She just doesn’t want any of the rain to fall on her. And the universe can accommodate that. The universe can accommodate that because it’s all about timing and timing is about your inspiration to move, your inspiration and your ability to interact within the inspiration. Timing is about getting an impulse and following it at the precise time.
Be playful. We really make too much of all of this. You could have one sentiment that you leave this gathering with and it would serve you for the next 20 years of delicious, deliberate creating and that would be, “I’m just gonna start making the best of things.”
“I’m gonna make the best of this person.”
“I’m gonna make the best of this conversation.”
“I’m gonna take that comment that was offered to me and I’m gonna make the best of it.”
“I’m gonna make the best of this meal that I’m eating even though I’ve eaten better.”
“I’m gonna make the best of this bed that I’m sleeping in even though I’ve slept in better.”
“I’m gonna make the best of this bumpy road even though I’ve driven on smoother.”
“I’m gonna make the best of it.”
And as you do, more of the best of more of the things start rendezvousing with you. The alternative, the opposite is saying, “I’m not liking what I’m rendezvousing with. It needs to change.” And then you get so frustrated because it won’t change. It doesn’t even know how to change. You’re not a long enough factor in its experience to really change, even if you’re married to it. Really.