Difficult times for today's couples and dating singles

I feel sorry for many of the single people and struggling couples that are out there. I have noticed, for the past 3 decades, that a decline in the quality of dates and relationships have increased substantially. The type of person that it takes to have a solid, loving, lasting relationship hardly exists anymore. Let me explain what I mean.

All of us know that is takes hard work to maintain any relationship. It is only a matter of time before the "newness" of a relationship wears off and friction begins. It is during times like this, that two people of character and maturity can work together to smooth over such friction and keep the relationship energized and moving forward. The problem is finding people today who have character and maturity.

Strong families were always the nucleus to raising youth to becoming functioning adults. The traditional family hardly exists. For one, you are lucky to see two parent families let alone two original (non divorced) parents being together raising children. The majority of families are either divorced, remarried or single and or living together without being married. Second, how many youth are raised with solid moral and ethical compasses? You know, raised to know right from wrong. How many exhibit the simple courtesies like saying thank you, holding a door open, picking up trash that was dropped, being quite during a movie or concert or yielding a seat to an elderly person? It is rare that I witness such courtesies. Now take that same teenager who later turns 25 years old and tell me how they will exhibit character and maturity in a relationship? They won't.

Today we have ANTIFA, purple hair, body piercings, transgenders and who knows what else populating society. I challenge any 24 year old woman to find a 24 to 26 year old male who is not playing video games living in his mom's basement. I also challenge any dating or married couple in their 30's, to have a husband who does not play fantasy football or John Madden's NFL 18 or a wife not watching GLOW or Ellen DeGeneres. Of course I am being sarcastic but I am sure you are getting my point. The caliber of person it takes to make a good dating or married partner are getting far and few between. Our society and culture are not producing the grounded mature adults needed to have a long lasting relationship.

For centuries, wisdom found in spiritual texts provided the glue that kept the society or community strong. That has all but disappeared in today's world. No one gets disciplined anymore. No one is told no anymore. No one looses a ball game anymore, everyone gets a participation trophy. This insane, ludicrous, mindset has destroyed our society. As a consequence, we have one or more generations that are struggling to find wholesome long lasting meaningful relationships. Fortunately for me, I was raised old school. I got ass whippings when I deserved it. I had to work and hold a job as a teenager to pay for my own car, clothing and entertainment. My dad had a family rule to be out of the house by our 18th birthday. Well it worked. I had to grow up and be mature by the age of 18. No playing video games and living in the basement at our house.

To be a solid, mature, boyfriend, man or husband one needs solid morals and ethics. You must be a hard worker and a self motivator. To be a beautiful loving girlfriend, woman or wife you need similar qualities. Both need to work hard at having a successful relationship. Participation trophies do not cut it in the real world. As I said at the beginning of this post, I feel sorry for those single, dating or newly married. The odds are tough that they will have a long lasting happy relationship. It is not impossible, however, to find true happiness in a relationship. It will take effort and searching long and hard to find it. Perhaps if Hollywood got out of the way and real families came back, society would have a better chance.