This is indeed an amazing one. I love to talk about relationships and marriage because I've been in it for quite sometime. The very first thing we must notice here is that not all good friends make a good couple. Probably the girl is only comfortable with then bn friends not a 'couple'.
Another thing the young man should know is that in a relationship, words come out naturally. You don't force words out of the other party.
I know from the story that the woman has seen lots of women and probably her mum or sisters are involved in 'abusive' relationships. She has therefore locked up her heart towards men and oh, if every man could be my beloved husband. You know why, I salute and respect the young man.
In every relationship including marriage, people need their space. Not everyone wants or loves to feel the other person is choking him or her up. You might feel it's love while the other person doesn't see it that way.
You need to sit down with her, seek to know why she has the notion she has about men. Do not start asking her to tell u about her past or start sounding like a CID or police. You need to be the friend you ought to be. If it's not working out, do not jump into a relationship with the other lady u met. Give yourself some time to think properly and probably work on yourself.
Most times, we seek what we don't have from others. The other young lady cooking for you and showing you green light might not be the best for you. Be very careful with your decision.