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RE: Miss. Opinionated : Guys that grind my gears!

in #relationship8 years ago

Great article, but I am going to play a little devil's advocate here and represent for the men. I agree with your post, except for the last bit...

And trust means letting them having friends of the opposite sex

As a guy, I have never once wanted to be friends with some chick. Maybe I am just non typical, but I doubt it. The only chicks who I have ever wanted to hang out with 1 on 1 in person, was for well sexual reasons. Most dudes if they are straight, are the same way in my opinion. Most guys that are stuck in the "friends zone" with some chick, they actually want to bang that girl but don't have the balls to come out and say it. So they pretend like they are just friends to get close enough to one day act on their feelings.

If my fiancee starting hanging out all the time with some straight guy, some new friend, I would def be asking questions and be worried. I don't think that is unjustified or being controlling either it's just common sense, because we are guys and we know how our minds work; both of them.

Peace and keep up the good work, but remember when she says's "He is just a friend"... he ain't.

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I guess you definitely can't speak for me as most of my close friends are all women and I don't hang out with them because I would want to sleep with them. I greatly value their energies, usually much more than most man around me. Yet, I sure do have monumentally great friends of both genders and feel very content with that. It actually gives me a window of visions in other worlds all together, the one offered by women's perspectives as well as the ones offered by a great deal of different men out there, not only the ones you describe. Sorry, I seriously don't fit the bill. All for one and one for all! Namaste :)

Same here, but I have to admit that I don't mind at all if something happens, somehow! lol

I can only agree, when the time is ripe, if ever. Namaste :)

Yeah my comment was in general terms. There is always exceptions to the rule.

LOL. There's a lot of TRUTH in that comment.

Bizzzzzmarkie!!! That song is fun to sing after a few drinks.
& I pretty much agree.

What if the guy is a moose?

I do understand some people don't believe that people of the opposite sex can truly be friends in a 1 on 1 situation. And this is exacerbated by the fact that most people are too afraid to be straight up about their true intentions when making friends with people they fancy. But I do think this is partly down to the problem of the individual giving off the wrong signals and showing others the wrong qualities. I'm sure you could appreciate having a female friend who really resonates with you, and at the same time you didn't find physically attractive at all?

Yeah I mean I have female friends in the sense of other truth seekers who I interact with online. Let's be honest here though, flip the situation. If I started going out to dinner with some other girl and hanging out 1 on 1 "as a friend", I am sure my fiancee would probably turn my indoor "herb" garden into a pile of leaves and dirt, and maybe even stick my ps4 in the bathtub. I can only imagine the types of arguments that would ensue. Even if the chick was not attractive at all, it would cause major problems. I just don't see how in a real world setting this would be possible. Theoretically yes, and on steemit in a blog, yeah your premise makes sense, but when put into action in real life, men and women both get jealous when their significant other starts hanging out with someone of the opposite sex.

Open, pseudo-exclusive relationships for the win

@titusfrost, I was pleasantly surprised with her points (as I was expecting her to write some feminist crap or other spoiled nonsense), but I also had a problem with the part you did, but I want to focus more specifically on this:

Repression is not a good thing

And my reasoning is here:

https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=1082909.msg17617281#msg17617281
https://bitcointalk.org/index.php?topic=1082909.msg17621871#msg17621871

These are damned facts (unspeakable, politically incorrect truths).

Hey uh? Not sure what you are talking about? Mind elaborating below because the links you sent were to some forum board with many topics.

Peace.

You need to read the links. It is a deep topic. She brought up the point about whether women need to be repressed or not. And I am arguing they do, for their own happiness and for the success of the culture and to prevent enslavement of ourselves. But this is a very deep topic.

And if you are a man who only wants sex and not to rear offspring, then you are enslaving yourself.

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