@oluwatobiloba, I love this series. You obviously have a heart for people especially when it comes to matters of the heart. It won't be a bad idea to start thinking of running some sort of NGO. You definitely have what it takes.

Let me share my thoughts as per going through your partner's phone. I have been married for 12 years now and I have learnt a thing or two. I have learnt that it's best to respect your partner's privacy just as you want yours to be respected. No matter how in love 2 people are, they can't be everything to their partner and because humans are inveterately social, we always find someone to fill our empty spaces. If you go through your partner's phone and find a conversation with one of such, no matter how innocent it is, the natural tendency is for you to build a mountain out of a mole hill out of jealousy or insecurity. So it's best to leave their gadgets alone. However, if you have a nasty filling or a premonition that something is wrong, please face it head on by talking to your partner and asking to go through their phone to confirm. This may sound simple but is actually a very tough delicate process which requires the doubting party to be very calm and very smart. I could go on but let me not bore you...lol

As for Miss X, one needs to know a few things about the guy to answer her questions properly. What does he do? is he really very busy? What is he facing at work and in School? Could it be that he has serious challenges that she is oblivious of? If he has legitimate reasons for the reduction in calls, she has to let him know clearly that communication and quality time are her major love languages and the fact that she isn't getting enough makes her feel unloved. No good man will hear that he is inadvertently hurting his partner without making a conscious effort to change. If he is however nonchalant at her observation or angry about being called out on it, I would suggest that she dust herself off and move on. It is a horrible thing to stay with someone who doesn't really care about you.

As per his issues regarding their age difference, she has got to check herself. Respect is to a man, what love and mushiness is to a woman. Could it be that Miss X is being unknowingly disrespectful? If he needs to feel celebrated and respected and she isn't being either, believe me, he'll move on pretty soon in search of both with someone else. She could seek an impartial 2nd opinion from the guy's close and honest friend. If it so happens that she isn't doing anything wrong, it could be that the guy is insecure and insecure men are dangerous husbands. They are often the ones who end up beating their wives or competing with them creating very unhealthy relationships.

I hope I have been able to help a little and not confused the young lady further...lol.