RE: Miss. Opinionated : Chivalry, where art thou?
I can tell you exactly why men don't do the traditional things to try and court women or be polite that they used to, but you're possibly not going to like the reason.
"Mainstream media likes to glorify males who tend to mistreat women and yet pass on the chivalric ones that don't make headlines."
I would disagree with you that the media glorifies males who treat women like crap, I think it's far worse than that and they actually make it out that men like that are the norm. Not only that, the ones who forget worshipping women and putting them on a pedestal, just treat them nicely are all grouped together as being some kind of manipulative menace that's purely out to score sex with them.
I do wonder, have you ever actually asked a guy about this? I'm single, never had a girlfriend and I can tell you now that in my country in the UK at least I would actually consider it dangerous to try and hit on girls nowadays. To quote Dave Chapelle, chivalry is dead and women killed it, much of what women are dealing with on the dating scene seems to actually be self-inflicted because they refuse to trust men or are terrified of them because of what they've been taught about men when they were young.
Unfortunately, feminism has been responsible for this, a rising wave of utterly misandrist crazies who control the universities, various 'equality' groups, political lobbying and so on and they seem to have the specific goal of making women completely terrified of men and blame the invisible 'patriarchy' for all their problems.
The reason I bring this up is because even though you're talking about chivalry being a good thing ( Which Is a thing I don't mind by the way ) you seem to be using an awful lot of feminist style buzzwords in this piece which makes me wonder how much you really know about the political group.
Well put. I really believe this is the root cause. This third wave feminism is truly vindictive and in the long run it is hurting the happiness of women AND men.
Interesting view.
First and foremost, I am not a feminist, so I don't identify with that political group.
I am however in a society still catching up to the west so my views might be skewed slightly. However I did actually spend most of my time after turning into an adult in UK, and that is also where my experience on dating comes from as well.
I wasn't really aware of the media making out misogyny to be the norm, even so, women do to some extent assume that men are always out to score sex with them. And part of the untold reasoning behind actions of both sexes is down to the true currency in a relationship which isn't money at all, but sex itself.
It isn't even a piece about problems, rather one about shifting norms in dating. No one is blaming patriarchy for their problems, only identifying the roots of where chivalry came from.
Oh well that's great then, don't buy into that bullshit and keep on thinking for yourself, but yes, a lot of left leaning websites in particular and news organisations here in the UK push this narrative against men constantly, I was just wondering how aware you were of it. What happens is that even if people may not necessarily identify as a feminist they tend to absorb these kinds of viewpoints from popular culture or media and it's in these places these sorts of viewpoints are thriving.
It's interesting you mention your dating experiences were mainly in the UK, this might indicate why you've experienced the things you've had, like I said, recently at least, dating for single men has become an absolute minefield in this country. It's not just an issue of men getting rejected anymore, because of how biased the courts and police are against men due to feminist lobbying a man can end up getting into huge trouble just on a woman's word where she accuses him of assault or rape that can be all it takes and it can be done to men for the most petty of reasons.
So in response to this men will simply cut off any intimate contact with women because it's just not worth the risk, it will vary from area to area and among individuals as you'd expect don't get me wrong, but that's the general trend, especially in the west.
As for the scoring sex part, of course men are out to score sex with women, it's our biological imperative. It doesn't mean however that every decent action we take towards women means it's all about that though.
I would actually consider it dangerous to try and hit on girls nowadays.
Bingo.
I got lucky twice... but ....
Women are dangerous...best thing to do is stay the hell away from them.
Well I'm going to go and visit another country where there will be hopefully less crazies out there, or at the very least the girls are more honest, that's going to be my personal cure for all of this. I think that's what other guys should do too if they're really desperate to socialise.
It's quite remarkable to me just even on the internet talking to different people how the attitudes towards sex and relationships are different and varied and then I look back at the UK and I'm like "Nope" :P Hell even in America as a western country at least there's a good variety and you can usually tell the crazies apart, also thanks to the state system experiences are going to be vastly different depending on where you decide to go.
Japan has an interesting idea......they're just the one's to develope the tech too. Then what will the feminists do?