Dealing With Break-ups.

Yes today am going to be talking about relation and love and all the things in between. Some people have been in a relation and before you know it, it comes to an end. You are sad, broken and emotionally drained. ‘”What am I to do?” you ask yourself. Am I not good enough, what does s/he need that I do not have, what didn’t I do, what could have been the problem? These questions never stop to cross your mind.

It is a very usual thing for anyone who has just broken out of a relationship to be emotionally derailed, sad and unhappy. Love is a beautiful and everyone would kill to have it, but only few could understand what love is and how to manage it in a relation.

But hey! Am here to tell you that you should get up and dust yourself up- HOLD ON! I know that maybe you feel that your time is going, you feel like you would never get someone else, but it’s a lie because when that right wo/man comes your way you will surely know.

Know this today, that if someone could take your wo/man then am sorry, s/he is no not your own. This is why you must forgive the situation immediately, mend your heart and get ready for the right person. Some people cannot handle break-ups, it’s either they are on a mission to revenge, feel hostile over the other person, feeds on old events and becomes very vulnerable confused and lose hold of the right judgement of situations.

This particular set of people are prone to serious emotional stress which to me they gave way for. See, whatever is yours cannot be taken at all so why bother and kill yourself over something that is not worth it, HOLD ON when the time comes you will know.

Do not be surprised that romance is not true love, for sure it is one of the tool to make a relationship interesting and wonderful, but it does not mean it is true love. True love is about understanding, true love is trust, and it is filled with wisdom. It does not act irrationally, it does not make hasty decisions. It is patient, kind and full of compassion.

Do not think that only love can stand in a relationship; if it does not have companions like trust, understanding and maturity it would become a problem one day. Hence love alone is not enough. Trust strengthens a relationship, it is everything to a relationship. People who have stayed over years in marriage will you tell that.

Never believe that because the previous relationship did not work out, or that because your partner did not find you good enough to be with that you can never be good for someone else. Keep your mind open. “Keep your mind open”, a very wonderful sisterly (women helping women) said; but do not rush into anything because when the time comes love will find you.

So let’s talk a little about how to get over a break up.

You’d have to understand that break up is not the end of the world, it is also not a death sentence. Break up is a situation that tells you that your time with someone who is not for you is up. Hence, never see break up as bad cause it is not.

There are so many lessons that you would learn through break ups that will lead you becoming a wholly different person positively, that is if you decide that it is positive you want. Am sorry to say that am disappointed with the way some people see breakup as a way to become something that they are not. You should learn to take anything that comes into your life and transform it into good no matter how bad.

Tips that you need to stay good after your break up

Accept what you see and embrace yourself
It is always difficult for some people to do, but hey if you don’t know one will do that for you. You have to do yourself some good good favour and take what is and forget what you cannot change about the situation. No matter the party that has initiated the break up and for whatever reason either good or otherwise, the best thing is to take it and embrace yourself. Do not be too hard on yourself either.

Time to fix yourself up
It has happened and there is nothing you can do about it, but you can do something to fixing yourself. It’s the best time to see and correct some negative attitudes and habits that could be a problem to your general life. This is the time to renew your strength and see what you can make out of your life positively.

You cannot be buried in self-pity and expect yourself to be fixed, it cannot just happen you need to enforce and make it happen. Like I always say that there is nothing you cannot do except you are six feet below.

Be the goal digger
Now you have to face your dreams, goals passion. Before you met this person you had dreams and goals, so breaking up does not mean that these dreams and goals have to die. It’s time to do this, chase after your dream, goals and passion.

Be happy because the best is yet to come
Let me tell you the most horrible thing that can happen to anyone; it is thinking you are in the right relationship meanwhile it is not the place for you; Forcing yourself to make things work or better when you know that there is no head way and lastly, refusing to know that maybe there is no future for the two of you together.

So many people enter into wrong relationships and they become blind to see the truth and along the way get hurt when the truth starts to unfold. But then you have to be happy that fortunately you are not going to be married eventually to the wrong person.

Never dwell in the past, sad and thinking that your best has gone with someone else, whatever is yours will surely be yours but if it’s not working take a bow and head out and be happy you did.

When your own true love comes you will know, feeling thankful and happy. Never rush this process because it is going to be one step at a time.

We will be stopping here with breakups and how to get yourself back until I come your way again. I remain that sisterly that is after your emotional, psychological, physical and spiritually well being. I am a woman who believes in not only helping other women but in humanity and the good of it. I am @gloglo!

Words:

Wo/man: Referring to either a woman or a man.

Sisterly: A lady/woman considered to be after the well being of other women (women helping women).
PS: That was my connotation for sisterly in this context.

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