Who should spend more on a date,the guy or the lady?
For a first date, it is better for the person who had done the asking to pay for most, if not all, the expenses. Some other answers you find on Musing would tell you the same.
So, stop subscribing to the traditional idea of dating. Better yet, let's not stack responsibilities solely on one side or the other.
In your subsequent outings with the same person, you may consider splitting the bill. Some may prefer to split equally, and some may volunteer to cover a specific part. In fact, some may even prefer to add in their own twists as offer.
When two persons are in a committed relationship, the issue of who is paying more should subside. I am not saying to not keep track of your own finances, but cautioning against being too overt about it.
Too often, what started out as an expectation becomes a scoreboard. You don't want to keep scores in a committed relationship because it is a recipe for disaster. You want equity in a partnership, not absolute equality.
Outside of the cost of the date, make sure it is something you both would enjoy. The amount of money you spent is insignificant when you do not enjoy each other's company, or the activity.
Once again, as your relationship progresses, who is paying should not even be an issue. The only limiting factor should be financial constraints and time once you are to that point.
Enjoying your time together should be top priority. No amount of money can mend an empty relationship.
Lovely moments with dear people are not necessarily related to spending money. I'm glad you have made a good point in this post. After all, in the end what remember is not the food or drink, but the quality of the time spent with each other.
Should probably stay away anyone keeping scores.
I wish I had your post when I was younger. It could have saved me a lot of confusions. So, once again - great post!
Haha thanks! But, this came more as hindsight on my part too. I wish I had thought like this when I was younger as well.
You know, with me the message of all valuable lessons break through with at least 10 years delay. Ah, Life!
who wants the date more?
In the beginning, most likely yes.
this is so true. Always make sure it is something you both like. This helps in one or the other upset about paying for something they don't care about...
There are a lot of inexpensive options. Sometimes, I think people are trying too hard to impress or believe more money = better date.
@enforcer48, nice post! I do agree with all the points you've pointed out above! I don't understand why in a relationship someone should be "obligated" to pay the bill. This is so old fashioned.
This is a very very nice post! Good job!
I believe those "obligations" become equalized as a relationship mature when the couple complement each other in different ways.
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