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Hi Everyone!

Just a warning this post could be very boring for most as it's a post about just me.

I have a feeling there might be some misconception about my last post which told about my journey to find The Alliance so let me explain myself in the only way I know how and that is to backtrack three steps, ask myself a bunch of questions and finally end with all the answers.

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Yesterday I finally had time to read a bunch of posts I have been meaning to. One of the posts I was lucky enough to come across was one written by @thethreehugs called Girl's Circle - Empowering Females Series.

The Floater:
She moves freely among cliques. She has protective factors that enable her freedoms, such as being pretty but not too pretty, nice but not terribly sophisticated, and she avoids conflicts. She is more likely to exhibit higher self-esteem because her sense of self is not based on just one group. She has the respect of the other girls because she is not trying to rule but does have influence. She does not want to exclude other girls. She is not trying to win all conversations. She is not competitive. While this individual does have some power it does not equal that of the Queen.

The above quote explains me to a 'T' in case you wanted to know more about me in general. I have never been a person that only had friends in one kind of group. I think it goes back to losing my Best friend Margie that I wrote about in my '5-minute Free therapy Write' found here.

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So let's break the above down from my perspective and see if that helps clear up a few things.

She moves freely among cliques.

Groups are wonderful. They give you a place to ask questions from a large group of people so the chances of finding an answer are greater than asking just one or two people that you might speak with on a daily bases.

Meeting new people and feeling helpful to them is what makes me happy. I have never, ever looked at a person and thought what can this person do for me? Just the opposite for me. My question in meeting new people is 'what can I do to help them?' which is why, sometimes, I will write comments that are pages long on a post and other times all that comes out is "I LOVE IT!" which I do. Love it. Really, trust me on that one if you ever have seen I have written it in as a comment on one of your posts.

So while I have found a group, #thealliance, that I am very comfortable in and wrote a post about it doesn't mean I have changed in anyway how I feel about any other group, person, animal, I have met and am friends with on Steemit.

Got it? Good! now let's move on the next part of talking about me which anyone that knows me knows how hard this is for me to write.

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She has protective factors that enable her freedoms, such as being pretty but not too pretty, nice but not terribly sophisticated, and she avoids conflicts.

This next part again is me. I hate conflict and will most likely leave a room or conversation if one starts unless you attack someone I call friend. If this happens all bets are off and my no filter mouth? pen? will tell you just what is on my mind and just how I feel about what it is you are doing. Saying all that, the comment:

I am not a political person but a people person

Has been said by me more than one time over the last month. I am on Steemit to meet people. I'm in this world to meet people. People are what and who I care about. I don't care where you come from, what you believe in, how much you have or don't have as long as it is doesn't hurt anyone. I hold all people, no matter what, in the same category called 'People'. I don't and never have a qualifier before the word people. Let's move on to the next part.

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She is more likely to exhibit higher self-esteem because her sense of self is not based on just one group.

This part, when I read it, was interesting to me and very true but I would never have thought of it in quite this way. Do I have high self-esteem? Yes, I do and so should you! If you are true to yourself then you can not expect to be anymore then YOU so respect who you are. Respect all of you, the good and bad. Be proud of everything you have been through to become the YOU you are today. This is something I feel very strongly about. Can you tell? loll

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She has the respect of the other girls(people) because she is not trying to rule but does have influence.

Being in charge might have some perks but from my experience, it is way overrated and that's really how I feel about that.

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She does not want to exclude other girls(people).

I personally don't think anyone should be made to feel excluded. Been there, had it done to me and it hurts so why would I want the same for anyone else? You wouldn't unless your mean and I don't have time for mean people. My time is too precious to be wasted.

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She is not trying to win all conversations. She is not competitive.

Trying to win all conversations means you think you know everything. If you think you do then you have a lot to learn. To me, that is just a stupid statement so let's move on to the next sentence, shall we.

Competitive. I'm not but I am. What? I'm competitive against myself. Very. So what does that mean? It means if I'm playing a game where I have to kill a monster that has 6 million life points and I have 100,000 life points and you are trying to help me kill the monster I will let you know just how to go about helping me kill this monster. @simgirl know this for a fact. She might still have nightmares hearing my voice saying "KILLL the ADD's FIRST!" Because I'm nice like that! That and I have the greatest friends and they put up with how I am time and time again!

Competitive again other people. No. Why? What do you win? A fake gold trophy to collect dust on a shelf that you will never look at again. For me, that is a waste of time. Time better spent talking to that person about anything else in the world.

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While this individual does have some power it does not equal that of the Queen.

The meaning of the word power to me is a negative one when I read it in this context. I don't think I have power. What I do KNOW I have is the greatest friends one could ever hope for. Ones who will drop everything to help me in any way they can when I get upset about something I see wrong in the world or something I feel strongly about and I can not fix it alone. Who can ask for more then having friends that believe in you so much they will help you if they can? You can not. I also know how lucky I am in all the people I call friends.

I'm going to end this post with the about me paragraph I send to @sneakyninja when looking for great posts to send in for the The Daily Sneak

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I am a Freewriter first and foremost on Steemit. The Freewriters Community gave me the confidence I needed to start posting on Steemit. From that wonderful experience, I am learning every day how to be a better writer. I write "How to" posts, Gaming posts and @simgirl and I have a radio show on MPSWaves Radio every Tuesday from 4-6 UTC. Laughing and making people laugh is my life goal.

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This has not changed. This is me.

What did change is finding more wonderful, like-minded people for me to be around and bug the Poo out of when I get bored and lonely.

Friends are friends and always will be for me. I do not call someone my friend and take it lightly. Ever. If you ever had any doubt's now you all know. I am still me but just added to my family when I joined The Alliance. So take that as a warning. I'm in your life to stay if I call you friend.

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Snook

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