Most of the Time I Will Not Judge Others
Most of us have demons to battle. Because I suffer from depression, I get it. I definitely do.
That means if I see someone who is extremely overweight, or even extremely thin, dressed in dirty or old clothing, with hair not brushed or even smelly- I will not judge. If I see a stressed out parent or parents with a screaming child trying to do something, I will not judge.
Why? Because I've been through all of what I mentioned above, except for being thin. If there is lack of self care, that means demons are being battled somehow.
Those who are mentally and/or physically healthy, treated well or are having an easy time will take better care of themselves and fix themselves up to look presentable before leaving their homes.
Those who are chronically sick whether mentally or physically which includes suffering from PTSD; abused; grief stricken, caring for aging family members or kids with special needs; and the list goes on will definitely not be at their best. In other words they will not be caring for themselves.
I will never judge these people because they are struggling. I get it. Even if they are experiencing something I never have or will, struggles are struggles.
However at the risk of me sounding hypocritical, I will judge those who purposely harm others by bullying, being hateful in regards to race, religion or sexual orientation or being judgemental without even trying to walk in someone's shoes; those who have it easy and tell those who are struggling to basically "change their way of thinking" or that "they attracted those horrible things" or to "get over it". I also will judge if you are fake in every way possible.
To sum up, if you are an asshole on purpose I will judge you.
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A great post I also do not judge those you do not judge how can we in many cases it's for reasons out of their control
However like you bullies, spiteful and hateful people I will judge
Exactly. I was actually called a hypocrite for judging someone who judged me without knowing my story. Well I guess that makes me a hypocrite then but don't care. I will judge those who are purposely being jerks.
nothing wrong with that in my mind
Don't let them get to you
Good post doll.
Thank you thank you
Very good article; I share your opinion, i like this post thanks :)
Thank you
Its easier to deal with an ailing body than an ailing mind. The mind is so complex that to curb the bouts of depression takes a mountain of effort. Sometimes it hiys the snag.
I agree with that and I will never forget the nasty comment someone made when they told me that depression "wasn't a big deal because it's not cancer".
Its worse than cancer...it can immediately be crippling and its heart wrenching to see someone battling depression because there is no specific drug to deal with it.
Thank you for putting this out there. It's important that the stigma is completely broken.
Often our judgments are wrong anyway :)
True
Hurting people hurt people. Lets not let our inner world determine outer outerworld!
That's right
True, true, and true! Many people see a dishelved person and immediately judge. Truth is you dont know anything about them. They see a larger person buying chocolates.... who cares? Maybe it is not even for them but a gift. And if it is for them still, why judge?
"change their way of thinking" or that "they attracted those horrible things" or to "get over it". I also will judge if you are fake in every way possible.
I can't stand that shit. If you remember that discussion on here recently on another person's post. Try to put yourself in their shoes for a minute, or don't, again, it all boils down to, YOU DON'T KNOW and hence dont have the right to judge
You said this perfectly. People need to mind their own business and instead of judging they should try being compassionate. Great comment.
Insinuations are the worst. If you don't know, don't assume
You never know what that other person you are seeing just went through. My rule of thumb is to simply never judge anyone and make assumptions. Focus inward in those times and just be thankful for what I am