Thank you for the comment @erh.germany. i believe the victim mentality is preventing us from seeing the true enemy in the fight against abuse.... is abuse. Many spend much of their time debating who is the greater victim, which often includes dismissing other victims to bolster position.

The prof. took it well and admitted that his actions were indeed the behavior which had been outlined withing the lecture. I do think that the method of approach is what matters in these situations, the intent was not to ridicule, but to question so as to understand.... because lets be real here, if the person who is well versed and is teaching does not abide by what is being taught it is a perfect opportunity to dissect the situation and learn about HOW these things happen. I may not agree with what is explained , but i want to understand.

The fact is that we are all capable of being the abuser or the victim of abuse, not just of same sex , opposite sex, but also of animals, substances and ourselves... what i hope we realize is that it is the abuse we must focus on. The patterns, the circumstances, the environments, etc. if we UNDERSTAND how abuse works, then we have the ability to intervene when it happens be it others to us, us to others, and us to ourselves.