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RE: Living With Mindfulness: It is not Always About YOU!
Great post. Boundaries are so important. It's sad how needy some people are, but I try to remember they are probably expressing a poorly met need in a sad way. If only we could easily rewrite our brains to get what they need in healthy ways.
No doubt, Luke, they are in a great deal of pain or have old wounds that have never been attended to or examined. With enough rigorous self-inquiry and support from those around us, we can actually rewire our neural pathways to bypass the old toxic responses... it's the "easily" part that eludes both conventional and alternative therapies. Some "friendly acquaintances" (Drs. Elaine & Art Aron) have done a lot of neuroscientific work to understand how our neural nets work and how we can "repair" our brains from toxic damage. Elaine syays the goal is to go from 10 years of conventional talk therapy to about 3-6 months of intensive co-counseling, working with a trusted partner.
Oh, yeah. That makes sense actually. Since it is sort of an attention-seeking behaviour, it would seem that they are lacking in that in some way. Hence, they take to these measures to bring attention/pity to themselves. Good point. :)