people abuse others because they want to and have the opportunity. laying blame or trying to explain to yourself the psychology of a predator, does nothing. why does the lion attack the gazelle? law of attraction? no. because it feels bad about itself? no. the answer is, because the gazelle's body language communicated that it was weak and a target. the lion saw this message and replied in the way that it instinctively always will. i think you understand this. in your last paragraph, you wrote, "It means what they are doing to irritate you, you make you suffer, is working." your typo here i think is very telling. you make you suffer. on the internet, short of being doxed and actually put in physical danger the use of the word bullying is often a deceit. it is used to get attention, because it works. if adults take the time to learn physical and intellectual self defense, they develop the self confidence to deal with these predators. otherwise there will be no end to the perceived attacks. i am near certain that this will be perceived as an attack. if you remember it, it may serve you well in the future. that is my intention. i wish you well. good luck.