About indecisions

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"Well, yes and no" maybe ... "I still do not know." "That decision is too complicated for me. "I think so but it would not be right."

Indecision comes from wanting to always be right, to do it right; and by postponing the choice, you are prevented from facing the anxiety you choose to feel every time you make a mistake. The psychological state of indecision is a consequence of wanting to divide things in terms of good and evil, good and bad.

If you are trying to decide which place you will travel to, you run the risk of being immobilized forever, even after making the decision, because maybe it was not the right one. Rather, you decide for: "There are no perfect places to travel, if I choose A, it will have the most probable consequences, if I choose B, I may face other difficulties. Neither is perfect, just one is different from the other, period. None offers you the options of security or total comfort, nor will it be the choice between A, B or C. You do not have to always take the tendency to reduce your decisions thinking that it will be good or bad, right or wrong. Simply the results will be different. If you buy clothes that you like, that's how you'll look, what's different is just putting on other clothes. When you manage to abandon those wrong and self-destructive good and bad, you will realize that making a decision is simply a matter of thinking what are the consequences that you prefer in a given present moment. Do not start to choose to repent, bitter or get angry instead of making a decision, instead of deciding that those emotions are a waste of time, you have simply been able to make a different decision in your next present moment, a decision that will have consequences that the previous decision I can not specify. All this must be done without trying to categorize those decisions according to good and evil.

Nothing is more important than anything else. The fact of your friend working as a janitor does nothing better or worse than what a manager does to improve the progress of a major company. They are different things and nothing more. If you usually believe that the wrong ideas are bad and should not be expressed, while you should support the ideas that are considered good or correct. Maybe you think: "If something is not expressed correctly or is not done well, they are not worth expressing." But here is where the key to the matter is. This attitude can develop in you an "authoritarian" attitude. Well, who decides what is right? Who is the owner of the absolute truth? These are the kinds of questions that can not be answered satisfactorily. The law does not decide if something is wrong, only if it is legal.

Your effectiveness is not measured by your ability to choose. The way you handle emotionally after making any decision is the best measure of your strength in the present moment. Thinking in a novel way will be useful in the sense that you will become a person more interested in understanding your interior, and you will find it less difficult to make decisions based on the categories of good and evil.

Making decisions with prudence and virtue is an art. Do not overstep your decisions to the categories of good and evil.

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https://www.healthyplace.com/depression/symptoms/depression-and-indecision-trouble-making-decisions/

https://muriellemarie.com/mindset/how-to-overcome-indecision/