The destroying of the ego and the rise of self-consciousness

in #psychology7 years ago

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At birth, man has two forms of his existence. On the one hand, we are biological beings - the most developed animal on the planet known to date, on the other - social beings who produce and enjoy material and spiritual values ​​achieved through joint efforts with other people. The body and the nervous system of man are born adapted to live together with other humans. The ability to connect with others is the basis of humanity. Therefore, the problems of alienation and isolation exist since man has existed. Perhaps you will recognize yourself and your attitude towards the state of loneliness in some of the following revelations:
Historically, whenever it comes to self-development and personal development, one of the main topics is building up self-confidence. When life becomes difficult or we face a challenge, we are usually told to get hold of it and repeat: "I am good enough, smart enough and beautiful enough ... Yes, self-esteem has its function and that's probably is the most important aspect of the human psyche, and self-confidence comes directly from it. The problem that all experts unanimously accept is that self-confidence depends on two main criteria:
Self-esteem is based on our personal judgment of our own worth.
Self-esteem is based on the opinion of others about us.
Our self-confidence depends to a large extent on the validation of the approval of others. Consequently, the concept of self-confidence has changed significantly in modern theories of personal development.
The recent paradigm suggested that love for oneself or self-consciousness were synonymous with narcissism and selfishness. But what psychologists find is that self-awareness is the one that benefits society as a whole. When a person has the ability to take care of himself and does so, he is not only more prepared to cope with the challenges of life but also becomes more involved with other people.

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Self-awareness means accepting what you are. It is about how well you are aware of your own shortcomings, your own advantages, and your understanding. For many people this may sound like an excuse for mistakes and failures, but it is not. Self-awareness means acceptance, not self-deception and justification. Instead of saying, "I'm strong, I can do whatever I want ...", it's better to think in the direction of: "I have my strengths and weaknesses. My strengths are ... my weaknesses are ...
Self-awareness means accepting and opening yourself to your own suffering, not running away from it, denying it, but generating the desire to relieve it, to cure it, to be kind to yourself. Self-awareness includes the ability to understand your own pain, failures and incompetence without using judgmental judgments. Self-awareness is a mental adjustment. What you can do to develop it:

Be honest with yourself

Most of us have a friend who always tells us everything they are, without being interested in the impact that this may have on our fragile ego. In fact, this is most often what we are looking for in a friend. There is no reason not to be such a person yourself. But this should not be a process of self-devaluation, but rather a self-assessment process. It is good to be honest with yourself and your feelings before you can find out where the weaknesses we all have are. This is important because, until you are aware of them, you will never be able to pay attention to them and overcome them.

Self-reliance turns into self-reliance

When you become more conscious about yourself, your feelings, inner struggles and strengths, something unbelievable you begin to realize the strengths, weak spots and internal struggles in others. If you are walking around, thinking that you are impassable, you begin to think that because other people are not, they are weaker than you. There is no such thing as impassable or untouchable; in life, so that, knowing it, you start to look differently at the people around you.

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We have power, even in our weakness

Most importantly, while you are dealing with your feelings, instead of separating from them, you will learn where you fit best in any situation. This is a combination of the two elements listed above. Without faith in yourself you can not be strong. But faith in yourself develops in humility in man. Removing this contradiction is one of the most difficult tasks in life and personality and this best justifies the contradiction that at first may appear in you and the wandering between the two extremes of underestimation and overestimation of one's own personality. Being able to look at yourself quite honestly is not an easy task and is a skill that is constantly trained. To underestimate or overestimate is actually what we most often fail in life. Looking at yourself with sober judgment is an ability that few possess, but everyone can develop within themselves. Looking at the privacy of one's own person is like looking at each other, but with the eyes of a good friend who loves us as we are and desires the best for us. And do not forget: False modesty is also as bad as vanity

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Еgo problem is a huge thing.
Like your style man! Very informative. Thank you!

Thanks. You are welcome :)

This is some great knowledge you are bestowing onto people here, keep up the great work :)

Great stuff, i always say that in today's world, one would notice, that people usually do mix the application of egos with manners. It is a very fine distinguished line. Crossing it or not depends on how well one knows themselves.

ego Kills... as simple as that...

I think everyone indulges in false modesty and vanity. I don't consider them bad things necessarily, more as a shift in our stream of consciousness day to day. If you get stuck in any one kind of self-reflection sure that can be bad. My flaws are usually in the underestimating myself, to compensate I use fake vanity to inflate my own ego so as to combat the enemy inside my own head, telling me what I am not. Validation can be found in the actions of vanity, even if it is false it can validate. A little daily validation whatever it is keeps us from feeling like losers in this backwards society. For me at least, to each their own mirror.

@artwatch, yes , I agree with you. For me vanity is something vital and deeply rooted in man's actions. Without vanity, people would be boring, they would have no incentive. In most cases, the vanity of fame moves things in art as well. Everything is vanity for me and I doх't look entirely from the negative side of it. It is useful.

You wrote this piece very well thank you for sharing the knowledge on this interesting topic.
I can totally relate to it. Keep up the great work looking forward to your next piece.

Congratulations @godflesh , we r much excited to know about it, wonderful job you have done.

This article is meant for me. @godflesh I m very grateful for these words of wisdom. I am the kind of guy who needs little bit of motivation in every now and then.

Hehe very nice :) Thanks

very emotionally intelligent! self-awareness is an important skill

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