RE: Hierarchy Between Children and Parents Disappearing
"There needs to be an established hierarchy between parent and child, especially at a young age so you can teach them how to behave in the world. Its hard to discipline a child if they think they are on the same wavelength as you. Its a sign of the times and how relaxed the structure has become, but I question if this is good in the long run. Do we really want children of children raising children? Sorry for the complicated sentence, but if no one grows up that is literally what we will have, a generation of people who never fully transition to adulthood."
Weird that you'd conflate "growing up" with being on the subordinate end of a hierarchical relationship.
The hierarchy is what creates adult children. We're making progress, not going backwards.
Maybe. Im not so sure like I said. I just wanted to create the discussion. I think there are healthy hierarchical relationships that can serve as a real benefit to help someone grow as a person. However if done wrong it can be disastrous.
I guess it depends a lot what we mean exactly by 'hierarchy' here.
Like you shouldn't look at kids as your buddy or equal in the sense that you're on the same wavelength as them. But equal rules and standards would apply.
Like to me a non hierarchical relationship is you guide them and help them and show them things. (It would still be mostly similar to the traditional "parent" role.) But there wouldn't be bedtimes or things like that (there wouldn't be hierarchy in the sense of I pick the rules everyone lives by).