It is true that you can blame no one but yourself for how you feel.
And when you are speaking with another ,ask ,listen misinterpertion can can really be a big issue as someone may have meant one thing and you took it as another.
People mainly take it as a negative , I do not know why.
NonCommunication is the number one reason for the break-up of relationships ,friendships ,even business partners.
Unfortunately the older we are the more we are set in our ways of thinking and doing things and it may be difficult to change but ask yourself if the relationship is worth it.
When you have a friend & it progress into more never forget that you are still friends that is the basis for any good relationship as you have a solid base to build upon.