The Paradox Of Sexuality: The Advantage Of A Sacred Relationship
Learning about self-love is paramount to quit pressurizing a romantic relationship, but on the other hand that is what relationships are for: to learn about the self. Relationships as a whole offer this opportunity, although one learns much faster when sexuality is involved because sex reveals the Ego' s Fear of Being. A disharmonious self creates unbalanced surroundings. Both, the self and the environment are mirrors of one another, as The Principle Of Correspondence indicates.
Being in Love is a state of Mind that allows a 3rd choice essential to expansion. Relationships that thrive the most are which whose partners are not overly focused on security, emotional and material. The best relationships work in the *now* because neither projects the Fear to lose his or her mate. When they do not, the Economics of Sex takes over, and relationships begin to mimic a mercantile aspect (partners trade their security) which has been the most prevalent form of relationship in our left-brained and materialistic society. Dysfunctional families are the consequence of that very shaky premise.
Unfortunately or not, today, serial monogamy is too the most common model for partners therefore. When a relationship does not work, separation is often the 1st choice, the 2nd is remaining together because moving on is kind of scary or financially difficult. Serial monogamy is passed on to from a generation to the next, and although this behavior has more downsides than upsides, interestingly it is very common to witness that the 3rd or 4th romantic attempt (with a different partner) is generally more fruitful as the two sides of the fence have been tested and accumulated experience in knowing their own selves. Some people will need more than a 4th attempt though. Some may never find out because they haven't comprehended their own Fear Of Being.
Eventually serial monogamy will end, when a more deep knowledge about the self has been assimilated and with the encounter with someone on the same path and having learned a great deal about his/her own thought processes. Such a pair is now ready to truly Love.
When we look at Nature, animals only mate to procreate. And the same observation holds absolutely true for any living organisms. They basically have no other choice. For humans it is kind of different because they evolve in a higher realm of awareness, meaning that they must learn about Love and Its inherent processes. And this means that sexuality serves three purposes: mating, excitement or cosmic loving. Excitement (polarization) is always short lived and that is why it also has sold so well throughout the ages. In relationships, passion only lasts while it can, up to 2 years at the most. As for mating, it is a huge responsibility that comes with many strings attached. So mating offers very limited occasions in the end.
A Sacred Relationship is by definition a romance that hasn't started up by burning out its fuel called sexual energy. A Sacred Relationship also is an interaction that is more intellectual, though very flirty at time. Such a position allows feelings to deepen... or will manifest that quest for that special mate still is open. A Sacred Relationship starts thus with the Mind, which is the 1st Natural Law, the cause and effect of everything, but then expresses itself with the Heart. When a relationship chooses sexual expression first, generally the vibrations stay at that level because the latter can't seem to move beyond the polarity they have created, male vs female, and burn out their fuel as a result.
Very often people who have been through a torrid passion, end up exhausted or wasted and find their (ex) partner less attractive overtime. Only the Mind and the Heart can prevent the spilling of the fuel. A Sacred relationship regards intimacy as a plus to enhance Love as lovers or mates have a balanced lifestyle, and that they know about the dangers of fuel burning. They will thus find cheating unappealing and moderate their own intimacy spontaneously, without creating any frustration of any kind. Sexual Energy is for them Sacred.
Besides asceticism, that's the only choices we have as humans: excitement that always sends us back in full circle to square one ... or Sacred Intimacy in harmony with the Balanced Universe and which helps one attain the full awareness of the self
Celine K is a metaphysicist-metaphilosopher and has written: The Laws Of Light, Emotions And Sexuality, a free ebook available at celinek.net. The forum is still quiet but please sign up to discuss the Universal Laws and how they affect human emotions. Content reproduction is allowed with link to her site or steemit blog.
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I think that a relationship is basically a contract between two people. And as every contract, it is made to be fulfilled. All that goes against what has been settled between the parties is treason.
I talk of the economics of sex in one of my previous blogs, and very briefly in this one ... but a contract/trade is a materialistic attitude nonetheless. I do not recommend that type of relationships, but see that it is the mold many seem to choose - long debate!
This is quite beautiful. Your words come at a perfect time. Having just been cheated on by my girlfriend of nearly two years, you remind me that my dignity and effort are something to be proud of. Though happily ever after may not have been the result, my results are still beneficial. I have learned so much about myself in the process, so I can vouch for that part. In my defeat, I'm finding myself feeling closer to actualization. Resteemed n followed.Thank you, friend!
thanks a lot, I write about different topics as you can see. But my next blog in the The Paradox Of Sexuality series will tackle the challenge of Sacred relationships :)
Reforming the field of psychology and protecting humanity are my main focus LOL
Something the world really could benefit from these days. (: My big thing lately has been broadening my worldly perspective. In embracing the nature of the universe, I've been granted access to so many beneficial perspectives. I have been sharing some of these perspectives in my effort to help humanity decipher universal truth! We share similar missions; I've found this one to be my most freeing mission yet. Good luck to you!
I have a start up organization, will keep you in mind. I want to be surrounded with
passion for Humanity because we are in a very strange place right now!
Light workers definitely needed
I'm honored by the thought alone. Please do keep me in mind, as I'm very curious! You're right about that... the general consensus seems to be WTF?!
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