I find fate to not be something that happens to us based on our choice. If you set your mind to what you want you can achieve it, be it releationships, career driven or religious. Fate is to me just the achievement you get by pursuing what you want. For example, if I wanted to be with someone or achieve something and I tried as hard as I can, I will either get it or not, the result will be fate's answer. Just because we leave things up to chance does not mean they will happen and in most cases, I have found leaving it up to fate results in not getting what you really wanted. My answer is fighting for what you want and if you deserve it, fate will allow it to be.