Social needs like sex, love, and drive for status, are always external goals to fulfill the social drive of the need for the power process that can only be attained through social activities.
Human contact today with its materialist orientation of seeing people like objects for use, are the draining feeling you talk about.
When we are in an environment of "false selves" sucks all the psychic energy, because the spirit is not mater and they are not exchangeable.
But the most fulfilling moments of my life was with other people in their "real selves" and many times with psychedelics, and during and after these situations with real people you would get totally reenergized and with a total sense of Being.