Very interesting read although i feel your intellect is definitely higher than mine :-) I wonder if you read or heard of "molecules of emotion" by Candace b. Pert. This is not really about emotional intelligence but it brought a lot of clarity to me on the subject "What are emotions". I was always astonished by the effect of a Vipassana meditation where bringing total awareness to specific body points could bring out a lot of emotions. The emotional body started to make a bit of sense but still felt quite etherical (now your high IQ posts make me use words i never use :-), i mean not-physical)
Now this book is about the discovery that emotions are a 100% physical phenomenon, quite an eye-opener to me. It must have influence on the knowledge of emotional intelligence but i leave that up to you :-) Much love.