The new year is just around the corner and most of us are committed to starting a new, happier life - to lose weight, to stop smoking, to learn a foreign language and all other purposes. But there in the very dusty closet of the mind, the one we do not like to open, stays the last years disappointment: "Last year I have tried and it did not work out."

Attempts to change often fail for two reasons: they are chaotic and with immediate result expectations. Today we plant the seed and tomorrow we want to have a grown tree. Today to run in the park and tomorrow to run a marathon distance. Today to visit the gym and tomorrow to have muscles to show off on the beach. Do you know when you can see lots of women in the gym? On the 13th of February, trying to be in the best shape for Valentine's Day.

Yes, it sounds funny, but it's how we are usually trying to accomplish our new year's resolutions. We start too late when we already need the result. We are waiting for the situation in the office to become quite unbearable before we start looking for a new job. Or rushing to get a project done just a bit before the deadline.

Then what to do to make a change?

The answer is simple - to build a system that will inevitably lead us to success. Path from regular, small steps leading to the goal.

There are several steps that help build our system of change:

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Take a long enough time to achieve it. Look around and listen for how long it took for other people to reach their goal. Speaking English for a week or having a sculpted body for a month - it would be nice, but let's be realistic.

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It is important to know in advance what marks the end of our path and gives us the occasion to be proud and satisfied with ourselves.

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Ask for a support! If we push the car to start the engine, we'll ask another driver to help us, right? And he usually responds because he knows what it is your car to be broken in the middle of the road.

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Track and evaluate your progress. You can make our own wall of fame where we can collect photos, diplomas or awards. Or track a record in a notebook. The important thing is to have the feeling that you are moving forward.

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Celebrate the achievement with friends and relatives who will appreciate your efforts. Shared good emotions fill us with new strength to achieve our next even higher goals!