The Complexity of the Human Mind | Dealing with Aggression and Rage with Mindfulness and Neutrality
The Complexity of the Human Mind
The human mind is complex, diverse, unique. You never really know what goes on in other people's heads. A person's thoughts are an enigma; a code which requires arduous efforts to decipher. And it is in this complexity that diversity arises. We all have different opinions, likes, pet peeves, perspectives. The list could go on.
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Point is: We are all different. We have our own stories to tell and unresolved emotions to explore.
With this diversity, conflict is inevitable. However most of the time, miscommunications simply arises from lack of understanding. When both decide that their individual opinion should prevail over the other, this often results in a clash of points of view causing a spark to ignite. Now this is no big problem. One should just accept the other's perspective and call it quits, right? Well in a utopian world, maybe. But in most scenarios, that isn't the case.
Both sides are entitled to their opinions. All views and perspectives are valid in their own sense. Yet when the ego is wounded by the fire that was lit, we often resort to aggression. We raise our voices, drop our eyebrows. Self-righteousness kicks in. Our pride skyrockets. We become monstrous, deviant to social norms and revert back to our primal instincts: Rage.
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The initial reaction is aggression. Perfectly predictable yet totally unacceptable. Yet looking back at our history books in a historical perspective: Fighting fire with fire only sets it ablaze. Wars never brought peace but more violence, death, and anguish.
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When will we ever learn? Simple. It all starts with ourselves. It is important to see the human mind as a predictable object; no matter how complex it is, that it can be managed when properly understood.
Dealing with Aggression and rage
Let's start with our own minds. The first step is to be aware of our own flaws. We should become mindful of our actions.
"Did I raise my voice, was my tone alright, was I pointing fingers, did I curse, was I aggressive myself? We need to ask ourselves these questions. What could I have said and done to spark the flame and what should I do to extinguish it? Perhaps he didn't mean to offend but only felt like he is attacked. Maybe I only saw his aggression and lost sight of him as a result of my oppression"
It can be noted that when we see ourselves outside our own point of view, we begin to see the world differently. We look at ourselves and see our own imperfections and our mistakes. In the same sense, we develop a soft spot for others. We are all dealing with the same human experience and having a clear and calm mind helps in the process.
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When we have detached ourselves to neutrality, we can examine another's experience in their own light. "Perhaps he has a point. What has been going on in his life lately? He may just be tired from work. Maybe he had a recent loss. It could probably be how he was brought up as a child. After all, attitude is formed from interaction with the environment. If I were not angry, what could have been his side of the story?"
No matter how thin we slice it, there will always be two sides of the coin. No one is ultimately right or wrong. Situations are not always as they seem
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When two sides of the coin are shown, only then can the conflict be managed. Either through a win-win situation or through compromise. Conflict is inevitable but manageable. As adaptable beings, we need to learn to mediate through our own mistakes and be will g to accept our flaws. That is how we can grow as individuals. Detachment from our pride and acceptance of diversity.
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I often find that if I just let the feeling pass, I am better able to respond.
I have also found a sort of test to pass my words through. If I am contemplating a response, I say it in my head and imagine saying it. If during that test I feel a burning or tingling sensation in my chest or my stomach, I hold my tongue and rephrase until there is no burning or tingling. If I cannot avoid that, I wait until a better response can be formulated.
If there is a strong disturbance within me, I do what I can to quell that disturbance, even if the apparent cause is someone else's behavior.
Anger clouds the mind, and decision making is far more difficult in a state of anger than at peace.
I quell the disturbance myself to take responsibility for my own feelings and to avoid giving power to others.
What a great way to avoid conflict! It's easy and effective.
I totally agree with you in that. Anger blocks the person's point of view and shifts our attention to only our own. This is the reason why we must first have peace of mind before engaging in discourse.
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Thanks for reading it. It turns out that you already did upvote and resteem my post. My gratitude for your help.
About your account. That sounds awful. Not sure how I can help you with that but perhaps you could secure your private keys so no one else has it? Am I right? But thanks for informing me.
You should probably take some rest. You cant continue to spread positivity and good vibes without a good night's rest. Enjoy the holidays!
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