It so awesome. One of the best interactions I have had on my posts ever.

Maybe we worry too much about saying the right thing, when really all the grieving person needs is acknowledgement of the person gone.

You are correct. Acknowledging the passing of the person is all that is needed. Sharing some of the burden of being left behind in grief too is important. I feel a grieving person needs mostly to know that their late loved one was loved and is missed. People do this in diverse ways and most would rather speak.