Scattered to the winds
One of the hardest parts of life is finding that what we have been aiming for, working for, investing in does not happen. When the future we planned for has come and gone and the dreams are still unfilled. are we disappointed to have not got to where we wanted to be or are we grateful for how far we have come.
I think the thoughts of a child are one of hope, that in the future things will be better than they are today. But as we age, as the disappointments mount and our goals fall one after the other into the ditch, we start to believe that our positivity was premature, idealistic, illusion. Is this true though and, does it matter?
Does it matter if we do not reach our goals, does it matter if the life we planned does not happen at all. What are the chances that what we choose today for our future can actually happen when there is so much we have not factored, so much complexity and, so much we have no influence over at all. Perhaps it is arrogant to believe that we can achieve what we set out and the disappointment that arrives is unwarranted.
Just accepting that life is what life is and be happy for the experience might be a better plan to mitigate our emotional expectations. It could also be better to accept defeat before heading out and then, shoot for the stars as that way, no matter where we fall, it is further away than where we began. We could push as hard as we can and drive as many seeds into the soil as possible and cross our fingers that enough rain will fall and, enough sunshine will follow for some of our plants to grow and bear fruit.
All that I can say is that we all want for something better than we have now yet, how many are actually willing to do the work to have it. Dreams are useless unless they lead to an action to drive for a reality. Disappointment is useless unless it gives the energy to improve. Expecting others to change is pointless if we can't even manage to change ourselves.
The winds of change will never favour all as they will fill the sails of some and deflate those of others. Do we become listless at sea and depressed with our misfortune or, change tack and set a new course?
Looking back at my goals in life, I am nowhere I thought I would be yet, here I am.
Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
This reminds me of a quite profound book by Donald Miller called A Million Miles in a Thousand Years in which the author finds that when a TV crew turns up to plan a movie for his autobiography (because of a successful book that he had written many years ago) his life is actually quite boring. So he has to start thinking about his life as a movie plotline and the things that he should be doing to make a more interesting story and therefore life. I've probably not done it justice here but it really is thought-provoking.
Most of us live dull lives yet fool ourselves into thinking they are important nonetheless.
Indeed. Why dream if you won't chase them? Why chase dreams, but only halfway? Life will throw curve balls and the road will twists, but quitting should never enter into the equation.
Life itself is not for sissies. It does get a whole lot easier if a whole community all work together towards the same goal.
I never really understood this thing with having dreams. Especially considering we are just a life form like a plant. Life is here so there is no real dreams. Yes you can change some external things but other than that you can look at a fork and get excited. Since all feelings are being generated from within. So I never really understood wanting to be at another place or reach something. Since everything you need is right here. That will say there is no destination to reach. This is it.
I guess I have been in some bad places that motivated me to dream of escape, change, and movement. If you have never required better circumstances you are fortunate indeed.
Many seem to have lived in a privilege like no other time in history while many more live in much the opposite.
Surely. Especially in these times when abundance has hit extremely high levels. It compounds so much faster for younger generations.
It is good in words but living it is the challenge. I am yet to meet anyone who does.
I agree with you, sir but I guess sometimes it is not within the control of human to control his emotions. I sometimes try so hard but when the result is not good I feel so down and out. I think expecting too much from future always results in disaster.
The only thing you have to do is be present and aware. There is nothing you need to control. You will detect if you are just aware to every particle and do things without thinking just living that within 30-45 mins you will become extremely aware. This is not something that the mind can understand. The mind is just a tool to use. It's not life.
Yes it is. It just takes practice that not many are willing to do anymore.
I think we are where we deserve to be. With work, struggle and discipline you can go far and fulfill your dreams, everything depends on the perspective with which you look at it
I have been places I did not deserve!
Tell me, I live in the worst country in the world where opportunities are scarce, because who can grow from my country is a tough guy, because the situation in my country is too strong, for example, I aspire to be an entrepreneur. regards
Doesn't really matter where we live in the world unless we expect to get the same result as others. We can all do our best and improve. If you want to be an entrepreneur, just work at something very, very hard in both the areas that you enjoy and the supporting areas you don't. Good luck.
Thank you very much and it is not for nothing, but from my point of view, you have known how to do it by this means and I admire it. I greet you and you are a great example to begin to emerge. THANKS FOR EVERYTHING.
I think our expectations, dreams, disappointments are all a fiction of the mind. A lot of us expect that changes around us are meant to take us along, not knowing that change is a deliberate action that puts a decision in action. A lot of time we think change is not a choice, do you think to change is a choice?
Due to all of the things that led us to this point that we had no control over, thinking that we have control over anything is quite arrogant perhaps. Though, this doesn't mean we don't change through the decisions we think we make.
We all want something better than what we have now, and to achieve a dream it is necessary to put the action to make it a reality, you must have a lot of determination and concentration to achieve your dream.
Sometimes chasing our dreams is like chasing our nightmares because it never ends in a happy ending, and for that to happen it is necessary to have a lot of intelligence in what is going to be done unless you are lucky and you get a lottery ticket in the street and win or marry a person with a lot of money and make it easy to achieve your dream. For example, my dream is to go to Europe and to know many places but for that I must make a lot of money. Greetings and blessings my dear friend.
we chase our dreams and get chased by the debt collectors.
Have you ever seen this series in your life? Well, it's your reference to the cobjerre haha.
Many we hope that the dreams are fulfilled by themselves, but it is a serious error, we must work for them .. very good this topic to analyze, thanks