Isn't gradualism like putting a frog in a pot of water and slowly turning up the heat? Before the frog can figure out what's going on, he is soup!

I went to codependency 12 step group work, cogantive therapy to learn new habits, and meditation work to get the roots of trauma based conditioning called ptsd. One thing I clearly saw even before this work, I stayed in dysfunction because it was a known, the unknown was way scarier. Plus I was conditioned to feel I couldn't change or help my environment or myself, I was stupid. This was a system I was born into and didn't know anything better or different.

My reaction to dysfunction was doubling up my misery, but I stayed a victim because there was profit in that position, being, I didn't have to take responsibility for my choices. My miserable life was always someone else's fault. I see this dynamic played out throughout our society.