I have been married long enough to accept my fate that I am always wrong when it comes to making family decisions. In my house hold there is no right or double wrong that makes a right, it is simply just wrong. The way for me to get it right is basically ask her what she wants before I do it or get it for her. No matter how hard I try I still will in her eyes do something wrong. When she is in a good mood she will describe her way of treating me as a though love and trying to make me perfect.