Another example, I am a white man from the USA, I grew up in a certain community, and I get treated in a certain way in my country... if I read something written by a black woman (Toni Morrison, June Jordan, Octavia Butler, NK Jemisin are great!), who had a totally different upbringing, and gets treated very differently in the same culture, I can appreciate that her perspective is grounded in an experience that I have not had, that she knows things I do not. Of course we will have similarities, too, but appreciating that she has a wisdom based in parts of her life that are different from mine is the foundation of a respect and love for who-she-is, not how-she relates-to-me.