Well written as always
About this article I remembered Ronald D. Laing so I'm going to put a long quote from him. that's a long one.
“Since the self, in maintaining its isolation and detachment does
not commit itself to a creative relationship with the other and is
preoccupied with the figures of fantasies, thought, memories, etc.
(imagos), which cannot be directly observable by or directly
expressed to others, anything (in a sense) is possible. Whatever
failures or successes come the way of the false-self system, the self
is able to remain uncommitted and undefined. In fantasy, the
self can be anyone, anywhere, do anything, have everything. It is
thus omnipotent and completely free - but only in fantasy.
Once it commits itself to any real project it suffers the agonies of humiliation
not necessarily for any failure, but simply because it has to
subject itself to necessity and contingency. It is omnipotent and
free only in fantasy. The more this fantastic omnipotence and
freedom are indulged, the more weak, helpless, and fettered it
becomes in actuality. The illusion of omnipotence and freedom
can be sustained only within the magic circle of its own shut-upness
in fantasy. And in order that this attitude be not dissipated
by the slightest intrusion of reality, fantasy and reality have to
be kept apart.”
― Ronald D. Laing