Well not exactingly like adults because they are developing. They should be treated as much as an adult that they can handle at every stage of development. (The spoiled part I believe comes from parents rewarding "bad behavior". If you continue to buy stuff when the child is not respectful or does not listen to your reasonable rules, he will internalize that you don't have to reciprocate, you can only take. Also linked to lack of connection with the mother, lack of emphatic development)