A knock on the door
These days I expect a knock on the door from the municipality. You see, we do not send the children to kindergarten.
The government of Norway has allocated funds in the 2016 budget so that municipalities can seek out families who do not send their children to kindergarten.
Prime Minister Erna Solberg said the following: - We now know that kindergarten provides the greatest benefit for children from disadvantaged families and immigrant children. This is also the group who uses daycare least. Therefore, the government proposes that people from municipalities to knock on the door to the parents of children who do not start.
She continued: - It is not to moralize, but to inform them about what we know kindergarten means for their development and for their opportunity in the future.
Minister Torbjørn Røe Isaksen elaborated to the newspaper Aftenposten: - We have put 10 million kroner in the 2016 budget for this, and we are considering a legislative amendment. What is clear is that we think that this is something that the municipalities should do. He also went far in suggesting that this is a commitment that will continue.
The politicians do not know the consequences of daycare. They do not talk about all the negative effects of day care, only about how great it is and how “beneficial” it is for the child.
In Norway, it is normal to send children to kindergarten, or another form of daycare, from they are about a year old. That is madness! I think that the parents do this because of the propaganda from the government, media and other parents. They think this is the best they can do for a child. That leaving them in the care of strangers is somehow better then caring for them yourself. That this is the way it should be, that it is normal. It may be normal but it is not natural.
If an infant is left in daycare, especially for more than 20 hours each week, the child reads that as parental rejection. 20 hours a week is 4 hours a day during the weekdays. Most children are in daycare for much longer than that.
We sometimes attend an open kindergarten with Martin. He likes to talk with the two women that runs it. We try to go when there are children around his age and also so we can meet other grownups that is home with the children. We have invited some of them home to us so the children can play at home. Not many children Martins age attends open kindergarten. Most children his age are already in regular kindergarten.
Young children needs and wants to be with their parents. Anita and I see this sometimes when we go to open kindergarten. The one that we go to is in the same building as a big regular kindergarten. We sometimes experience first-hand that children are crying and clinging to their parents at drop off time and, if they are old enough to walk, they will routinely circle the fence or stand by the gate, hoping that their parents will return.
Once when I went with Martin, a little girl was standing by the gate with tears in her eyes and she asked me where her mommy was and if she would return to pick her up. It was heartbreaking. I have often thought about that little girl, how sad and wrong it is.
Martin asked once what the kids on the other side of the fence were doing, meaning the children in the regular kindergarten. We told him their situation. That they had to stay there until they were picked up. We asked him if he wanted to go to that kind of kindergarten, knowing that his parents were not there. He shook his head and said no. We have asked him a couple of times afterwards but the answer was still no.
What is the end plan?
Where does it end? Drip, drip, drip. More and more intrusion. More and more control. All in small steps, where each step by itself does not feel so bad, but if done in one giant step from the beginning, nobody would go along with it. This time it’s people knocking on our door because we don’t send the children to kindergarten. What is next? Will kindergarten become mandatory? Will the same happen for schooling? Will home schooling one day become illegal, like it is so many other places in the world, as it is in our neighbor country Sweden?
Some people have too much power over other people’s lives. They feel the right to control and tell people what to do. I don’t like politicians nor their minions, to put it mildly. Just leave me the hell alone. People should stop being such busybody’s and stop sticking their nose in other people’s business.
Daycare and the War Against the Family
Here is a video from Stefan Molyneux reading from the book the War Against the Family by William D. Gairdner. He talks about the negative effects of daycare on children.
Other links
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homeschooling_international_status_and_statistics
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It is similar here in Japan. Dump your kid off at one year old and get back to work. Due to finances, my son goes selectively to a kindergarten/daycare now (he's three), but he says he likes it sometimes. He only goes a few days a week, and of he says he doesn't want to we let him stay home. Anyway, I totally agree with what you are saying in this post and want to encourage you to keep being the great parent that you are! Cheers!
It is good that you are letting the kid stay home if he wants to. It is those first years that are crucial.
Thank you.
I agree with you in principle. As you know, however, most parents work long days. What to do with the children? In earlier times, there was no question on what to do: mom stayed home. Now, all (or most) moms want careers of their own. But children and careers generally don't go together. Here's the knot.
Thank you for responding to my post, @blue1950. No children and careers don’t mix, but it is a matter of prioritizing and doing what is best for the child. First of all. You set aside money when you are young, before you meet the one to marry, so at least one of you can stay home when the kid is born. It must become as natural to save money for being home with the kids as saving for retirement is now. It is natural for the woman to stay home. She is the one with the milk taps.
You have the children when you are young and then have the career later. If parents are working long hours, then they prioritize money before the children. If they are in need of a lot of money when the children are young, they should scale down their life instead. The child does not mind how big the house is or what kind of car you drive, or the clothes you ware. What matters most for small children is that the parents are there.
Secondly. It’s not what the mom wants that matter. It’s what is best for the children that matter. The child is naturally very connected to the mother. I’m sorry to have to point this out women, but you can’t have both. You can’t be a good mother and have a career at the same time. You can’t have a carrier and stay home with the kids. I’m sorry. The time you spend at work, is time can’t spend with the kids. Women can’t be in two places at the same time. If careers are so important, then have them after the kids are grown.
If you meet late in life and have children, as my wife and I did, then you make sacrifices. You do what it takes to be with the children. We did not set aside money, when we were young, to be home with the children. We did not know the thigs we know now. We had some money saved up, but not enough, not by a long shot, so we made sacrifices to save up some money. My wife gave up her carrier to be with the children. She wants to go back to work, but she knows she can’t do both. It is one or the other. When the smallest one becomes four years or so, she will return to the work force, but then, I’ll stay home with the children.
We don’t have a lot of money. We can’t buy luxury things or go on vacations. Maybe in two or three years we have enough money to go to Legoland in Denmark – maybe. We don’t drive a fancy car or live in a big house and the redecoration and house fixing, has been put on hold. However, we are debt free and that helps a lot. We do not owe money to anyone.
Oh, we are not rich, but we are there for the children, and I would not trade it for anything.
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