RE: Relationship Tips #6 How to Express Love with Requests, Not Demands
Hi there @tifaong! As a member of @newbieresteemday, I'd like to introduce myself and congratulate you on your entry being chosen by @danielsaori for his commenting challenge! Great work :)
This is a very interesting post/series you've been doing; I went back and had a look at them. I've always been intrigued by the fact that in life, we need to take classes or pass tests for everything...driver's license, school etc.), except NOT for one of the most important things in life : relationships. I know some churches for example host marriage courses, but let's face it, looking at the divorce rate in Canada (where I'm from), we are obviously not doing something right!
I believe that in the end, we simply need to treat people the same way we want to be treated; treat them like we did upon first meeting. Being comfortable in a relationship is no excuse for being rude.
I don't want to have demands placed on me, so I don't place them on my husband. I want to have a choice in life, so he deserves the same choices. I guess it comes down to respect...do I respect my partner enough to give him the same treatment that I expect from him? If the answer for someone is 'no', then it's time to reevaluate your behaviour.
Hello @lynncoyle1, nice to meet you :) Thanks for introducting me to Ginabot. She's awesome!
Schools don't teach us relationships, so either our parents teach or we teach ourselves. The latter seems to be more common, and we learn the hard way. Hence, divorce. What's the divorce rate in Canada, if you don't mind me asking?
to treat people the same way we want to be treated
What if he's twisted? He likes pain, so he inflicts pain on others? ;)
By the way, I like the way you question yourself.
You're welcome for Ginabot; I love her :)
Our schools, especially in younger grades, focus lot on relationships. Of course at that age, it's more about "how to be a good friend", but I think that knowledge transfers at an older age to boyfriend/girlfriend stuff too.
I guess if he likes pain, he can find someone else who enjoys it to ;)
And yes, I think when you ask yourself specific questions about anything, it forces you to change behaviours that aren't really positive.
Cheers:)
GinaBot is the best!
Sadly those relationships are mainly driven by emotions, not reasons. And
these experiences are brought up to adulthood, where they think "If there's no emotions, there's no love." which is entirely wrong!
Hahaha a masochist with masochist huh.
It's a good way to reflect yourself, for your own growth too.