You are missing the meat of the frustration. What do you mean by "steem is not fair and it is never gonna be fair"? So if there is a prevalence of non-equity and that has been the convention since time immemorial, we should leave it at the backburner and allow it to fester? Whales got to where they are on some people's coattail and instinctively, they should reciprocate because they have an inkling of how laborious getting on on the platform is. Nobody can goad them to upvote and if they like let them keep their steem power for their unborn children. That is their bane.
However, our docility in ensuring that status quo persists is the height of foolishness. We must speak the truth to them and let them see the reality of things.
Patience is expensive as it can wear out pronto. A privilege the platform is but the yawning gulf is heart-rending.