Reasons why we hate the word Of ‘lesbian’

It sounds like an obscure diagnostic term
Maybe this comes from years of siphoning off endless homophobia, but the word ‘lesbian’ has connotations of sickness and disease for me. When it’s paired with a person, the fact that it’s also a noun just makes it sound like somebody is a walking STD.
Too many syllables and it sounds awkward
Just by referring to yourself as gay instead of lesbian, you’ll save up to 45 minutes per year.
It’s difficult to divorce the word from its stereotypical baggage
The word ‘lesbian’ immediately conjures an image that is usually unflattering and grossly misrepresented. Nobody wants to be affiliated with that shit. When you’re reduced to a stereotype, your humanity is disrespected.
Tumblr automatically flags the tag “lesbian” as NSFW, for fuck’s sake.
It’s fetishised
Search “lesbian” in Google and let me know what you find after you climb out of the vagina avalanche you’re gonna get buried under. Go ahead. I’ll wait.
One time I typed in “Lesbian career advice” and all I got was “LESBIAN GETS ON THE D FOR A DOLLA”. So, this might illustrate why words other than ‘lesbian’ serve us better.
Tumblr automatically flags the tag “lesbian” as NSFW, for fuck’s sake.
The word ‘lesbian’ has become shorthand for a category of porn rather than a sexual identity alone. Searching for lesbian content online is just going to lead you down the yellow brick road right into a stiletto-repurposed-as-dildo party. No thanks.
Something about it sounds pejorative
Growing up, I heard ‘poofter’ and ‘faggot’ in reference to gay men quite a lot – but the difference between gay men and women is that the slur and the descriptor have clear separating lines for gay men but not women. Nobody shouts, “UGH GAY MAN!! YOU’RE A GROSS GAY MAN,” but are far likelier to shout, “UGH LESBIAN,” or something to that effect.
For gay women, the slur is ‘lesbian’ or ‘dyke’ – same as the descriptor. That’s where the discomfort comes from.
I think that when you hear the word ‘lesbian’ weaponised like that, it’s hard not to feel like reclaiming it is incredibly difficult to do. After all, gay men don’t need to refer to themselves as faggots, but gay women generally are referred to as lesbians.
One time I typed in “Lesbian career advice” and all I got was “LESBIAN GETS ON THE D FOR A DOLLA”.
Your mileage may vary
I used to hate the word ‘gay’, but now I feel neutral about it. My favourite is ‘queer’ because I feel it’s the most apt for me, personally. I don’t see myself coming around to the word ‘lesbian’ because I think it’s too far gone into fetish land to be easily retrieved, but of course, my views and the views of my friends don’t represent every homosexual. We just noticed a trend about the ‘lesbian’ label thing and figured it was still worth talking about.
Bonus round
If you’re a heterosexual and you meet a woman who refers to herself as gay, don’t correct her by saying, “don’t you mean lesbian?” They may just be your last words.