From what I can tell, you are doing the right thing for both your girls and yourself. You need time to heal, time to process and then you will be able to "smile and wave" lol. I have traveled that road too and Jude's father (my husband of 8 years) who walked out on us when Jude was 2 months old, also liked to randomly pop up like twice a year. This year, (10 years later).. he sent me some smug message about not wishing him happy birthday... I was like "and what of the first 9 birthdays your son had that you never bothered to call?" - He engages so seldom with Jude that Jude even forgets his name. I have NEVER prevented Jude from seeing him for the same reasons as you, but now, as a 10yr old little boy, Jude makes the decisions himself and when he does pop up, he normally opts for just a "day out" together and nothing more.

You just keep your focus on yourself and your girls!!! Children are far wiser than we give them credit... they will see the wood for the trees, if they haven't already and this will happen naturally. Be civil, adult and non-descript. It will all fall into place and I will put money on the fact that if he isn't already silently regretting (whatever happened) - he will one day.

I move forward with a more open heart, ready to embrace all the abundance that comes my way, because I deserve it. Just like everyone else does.

...you just keep doing that!

xxx