One of the most finest cricket Captain the world has ever seen Great Imran Khan once said,

“It is not defeat that destroys you,it is being demoralized by defeat that destroy you.”

I do 100% that it is not a big deal or loss if you have bee defeated in your life. Actually you discover different way to achieve your milestones in the life. It is not success that teaches you rather it is defeat which helps to build stamina to win :)