Take out the trash... Toxic traits.

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"That is just the way I am. You either love me like that or deal with it". Does that statement ring a bell?

A lot of people have defects in their character that they excuse for the way they are. They change their wardrobe, upgrade their gadgets, hit the gym to keep fit, get body shapers, buy books to keep them informed, entertained and abreast of latest happenings around them but never think about correcting defects in their character. It keeps me wondering the possibility of people being born with a character defect.

No child was born already speaking and walking as soon as they landed earth. They had to learn to relate with people and their environment. Anything outside this is either a defect or special medical cases which doesn't follow the usual status quo. If the reason you justify your irrational behaviors and actions is that you were born that way, you are in other words saying that you were born with character defect which cannot be true.

For some, their toxicity is anger. When they are angry, they inflict physical and emotional pains on those around them. For others, it is in the use of words. Their words are a mix of poison in vinegar. They speak to you and you lose confidence in yourself and hope about life. Others take pride in hurting others with words, destroying their self esteem and killing their courage.

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Toxicity in our character is like trash, it smells and is repulsive. You don't keep trash under your bed. Otherwise, It will make you sick as well as others around you. Toxic traits repel people from us. So get rid of those toxic traits, habits, attitudes, and lifestyle and pick up better ones. Like magnet to a piece of iron, it will draw goodness to you.

Growing up and maturity requires that you put away certain behaviors and attitude. If you keep expecting everyone to dance to your tune, love and accept your excesses, then you my friend are still a baby and it's high time you grew up. It's time to put the search light on yourself. The bible says to examine oneself. Find out which of your traits are negative and toxic to those around you. You don't justify broken things. You fix them.