Comparison. II, Contributed by @Olawalium
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There is no denying the fact that we have at one point or the other wish to swap places with certain people, so we can enjoy what they are enjoying and be in their shoes because we feel they are better and they have it easy. You wouldn’t want to be in their shoes I must tell you. No one has the capacity to bear what only you can bear. What I have gone through in this life, if another person should go through it, that person will crumble, and the same goes for me. If I try to go through what many others have gone through, only because I admire the life they have, I would not only fold, I would crumble and be completely shattered.
It is easy to relate to the glory without knowing the story. We have different capacity to go through all we are to go through. Don’t wish to have another person’s life, because you don’t know what they have gone through. Wishing for their life means downloading all their troubles too. There is no shortcut. There is no glory without a story attached to it.
Learn from their stories instead, it will open your eyes to know your struggles isn’t new. Others have it worse. You might think yours is the worst, wait till you hear another person’s story.
Comparison has eaten so deep into most people that they have lost their peace and confidence. Don’t hinder your potentials because you are trying to measure up. You don’t have to wake up each morning hoping to impress people. Be you. Be original. Be the best version of yourself. Strive to be better than you were yesterday. Let the revolution start from within and as earlier said if you even need to compare yourself with another, let it be to make you better, and not for you to think you are failing.
Most of the time we measure our success based on material things, based on physical things. “Oh, she is married”, “What? He bought another car?”, “Oh, he has more SBD than me, that means this platform isn’t for me”. To avoid this trap, I don’t bother myself to check people’s wallet. You have to know yourself and be intentional about it. If checking it would make you want to intensify efforts and re-strategize, absolutely!. That’s perfect, but the motivation has to be from within, because if it is from without, the motivation can never be sustained for long. From motivation it would lead to sadness, from sadness, it would lead to anger, from anger, it would lead to self-doubt, from self-doubt to depression. This thing has a way of spreading.
Know yourself. Know what gives you motivation and let it swell up from your inside. Remember, no one knows you better than you. Stop comparing yourself to others and basing achievements on material things. Find out what motivates you and step out of your comfort zone and DO!.
Thank you for your time.
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Great post! Can relate and thanks for this. Beautifully written.
Yes, you can compare yourself with others, but let it be for inspiration, let their success inspire you let it be turning point for good
The more you feel like a failure, the more you end up living a failed life.
even the richest of men can be sick of defeat in their hearts, even the prettiest of women can suffer from broken self-esteem. What gives rise to failure is a thought. One single, seemingly innocuous, thought can provoke a chain reaction of hundreds of others that infect our beliefs, and ultimately our self-image. Besides, this chain reaction is not limited to the bounds of our bodies. Wrong thoughts attract wrong people to our lives. Destructive thoughts birth misfortune and shame.
Everything in life is easier when you don’t concern yourself with what everybody else is doing.”
Thanks for sharing @olawalium
Absolutely, stop involving yourself in what others are doing and if you must, know yourself so much that you know it will only serve as inspiration to be better, and hearing their stories will help us all to do better too.
Absolutely.
Thanks a bunch brother.
without doubt this is a very insightful and timely write up especially in view of the current trend amongst the young ones in this part of the world(Nigeria). its however my prayer that the gud Lord increase your revelation.Cheers.
Amen. Thanks a lot for this and i am grateful it is timely.
Hahahahaha, so try and keep doing what works for you. You don’t have to be @olawalium just because you feel he is better and he have it easy. what walk for @olawalium may not work for @youngboss, if you are to envy him, let it be just for inspiration. you just have to do what you’re comfortable with, and don’t compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle. heheheheheh.
The act of comparison is an act of violence against the self. Be your own cheerleader. stop comparing yourself with others and focus on how you can become the best version of you.
Embrace your personal victories and combat your challenges head-on. Don’t compare your chapter one to somebody else’s chapter 50. I really love this from you bro @youngboss.
hehehehehe absolutely “If you cannot be a poet, then be the poem. Thanks for your contribution bro.
Hahahahahahaha this made me laugh. Thanks a lot for this brother. Duly appreciated.
hehehehe, any time bro.
“You are not a bad person because you care and focus about yourself, You are you because you are you and you were meant to be you – so be you proudly. Thanks for sharing @olawalium @communitycoin and @youngboss
You are absolutely right Don’t let others box you into their idea of what they think you should be. A confined identity is a miserable way to exist. Be you and live free. Trust that in living true to yourself, you will attract people that support and love you, just as you are,,
Thanks for your contribution
Very true. I believe by focusing on self-improvement rather than one-upmanship, we’ll have a more realistic and insightful strategy for reaching our goals, and ideally, our friends and loved ones will be there to support us along the way.
Always brilliant as always. Well done brother.
Each individual is a a unique being, we might have the same background, we can never have the same story because we don't carry the same glory.
Even if we are subjected to the same situations, we still react differently, because the way we are wired differs. Comparing yourself to Mr A or B is a big mistake you can ever make, because you are already on the part of unhappiness.
Wishing to be someone else has already denied you to enjoy the joy of been you. Nothing in this world can be be better than for you to be original
Can I call this the systemic formation of depression? The reason why depression cases are not easy to handled is because it does not started as depression, it started with something simple as competition to better those around you, so each time you tried and failed, you are depressed.
Even if you successfully become better than those around you , immediately you see another person that is better than you probably from another place, the problem emanate
Until the approach is changed, no amount of medication can cure depression, it can only be suppressed for a while, since what powers it is still active, it will spring up again.
I know you won't want to go that way, the way of depression, then stop looking out there for motivation, the true motivation is the one within you, the desire to be better than who you were yesterday.
Thank you @olawalium and @communitycoin for this wisdom.
Always the one from within. Trying to swap places and be someone else is trying to be another version of someone God doesn't need one more of. We have all the tools to be who we want to be and it is all on our inside. Thanks as always.
Wow, I love this, this is super wisdom. God don't need the two if you to do what only you were created to do.
Their is joy in accepting oneself.
Absolute joy.
Thank you @olawalium this is a well timed post. >don't envy my glory if you don't know my story
Most times we are deceived by the flamboyant lifestyles from people we see living well but when we go closer they are going through several stuffs. We should learn to be grateful for how far we've come and how far God is willing to take us.
When I see what some people have achieved, the only thing I seek to find out is their HOW
How did they get to the stage they're in right now?
Did they just get there?
Find out what the STORY is before you begin to envy their GLORY.
Absolutely, research...seek to know and learn. Success can always be duplicated.
I love that. We should be grateful for how far we have come and how far He is willing to take us. We should push ourselves from internal realization of the fact that we can be successful and should take steps towards it. Thanks a lot for that.
Thank you to for always blessing us with your articles.
I really appreciate this.
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You are right no one knows what they face before they reach where you saw them, you don't know how many sacrifices they made or how many times they sleep at nights and they just can't sit you down and explain
I hate checking people Wallet!
What do I have to check it for?
Would that add to my own SBD? hell no!
I'll rather spend nights making comments to gather mine
Hahahahahahaha. I like that. Thanks a lot brother. Appreciate this.
I love that part, always thrive to be better than your yesterday and work on yourself. Comparism isn't the best way for one to build himself
Exactly
The only person we should strive to be better than, is the YOU of yesterday
Not someone else
It is not the best way at all. Our motivation should most of the time come from within. Thanks brother. Good to have you here.
As a nature written in the holy book, there are perfect and perfect perfect human beings (among the results of His changes). The perfection of it (ideally) can differentiate the various things that exist, can be well and safely.
The process of making self-perfection can be started from self-examination. Recognize the size of our hair, the size of our shoes and various sizes that are more privacy. It's just us alone who can recognize it. What if there is an appreciation from others against us? No mistake, values are subjects that can be used, but do not apply to others. Our courage can not be a personal fit the market taste there is a measure of propriety of ourselves.
Sometimes this is where the problem is, see the grass is always better when there is something bad, maybe we just need more information to learn how to care and maintain it. Also finally let the neighbors who see our grass become better.
Apreasiasi we need. This is to reject the size of our limitations, not to seek praise for our strengths. A simple example, when we wear clothes or shoes that are not our size (the size of others) of greatness or smallness, although the design is so good and expensive. Momentarily there will be pride in us but on a long time scale will not cause problems in us? Unless we are willing to be someone else or we are strongly accepting and undergoing problems, this is another story!
Being self and independent would be better than having to act out to be someone else just to pursue a compliment or recognition! If so so selfish and autistic dong? Or even narcissistic? Anything that is in value and understood excessively also produces something that kuang exactly worldly. Essentially everything should be the size and the ideal and ideal portion. But it would be wrong if we did not try and resign ourselves to silence without increasing our size.
The point is, try to look at ourselves inward before determining the size we will wear. If one day we are comfortable with our size, that does not mean we should not climb the higher size (like the size of others!) But still should not be excessive. Slow and sure .... HE will increase our size (this is His promise but do not expect when it comes because this is part of His secret but surely it comes). Just enjoy it…. and you will understand when it comes!
Detailed. Expressive and absolutely brilliant. This part got me:
Always seeking to know so we can activate our internal motivation. Thanks for this.
I really like the topic debating on today, some people are like that in life, they want straight swap deal wanted to swap there life with someone else.without knowing what the person have past through.
but my question is that is there a glory without story, I don't think so.
Because in this life we are there is no “going to” without a “going through”. There is no delivery without a conception. There is no destination without a route. There is no product without a process. There is no shining gold without a refining. There is no rain without some dark cloud. The life of every man is sandwiched between a process and a product, between a pain at a time and a profit afterwards, sometimes failures at the beginning and tremendous success at the other side. even bible says this in the (1 Peter 5:10) From my keen observation, there are two categories of subconscious misconception that we draw up as humans when we meet other fellows in a particular situation of life. First, if the fellow is making it big, having almost everything working for him, we draw up a conclusion in our mind that he has always been making it and we tend to compare our own lives by asking questions: Why is my life not like the life of this fellow. Is it not the same God that created both of us especially if you are going through some tough times. Second, if the other fellow we meet appears to have his life as the seeming head office of all life’s problems – frustration, failures, hardship etc. We sometimes conclude that is the way he will forever remain by our attitude and action towards such fellow e.g. we distance ourselves from them directly or indirectly. Jesus said I am He that liveth but before you conclude that I’ve always been living let me also announce to you that I was once dead. By interpretation: I’m he that is successful now but I was once a failure in my life. I’m he that is being celebrated now by all and sundry but I was once an object of ridicule, mockery and rejection by friends and acquittances. I’m he that is fruitful now as a mother but I was once barren like Sarah, Elizabeth and Hanna. I’m he that is now a owner of corporation but may I tell you that I was once looking for job at the doorsteps of every company in town. Every man will need to pass through these two critical stages of life. Jesus went further to say, “And behold, I am alive for evermore.” Every time God turns a man’s story to glory, from being dead to being alive, from being a failure to being a success. If it is God that actually did it then it remains forever because He’s the only and authentic STORY CHANGER.
Thanks for sharing @olawalium and @Communitycoin I really love this topic from you... See you at the top
Wow. Lovely. Yes, our approach and attitude matters a whole lot and it determines how we see comparison. It helps us to turn our weakness to strength and trust the One with the master plan; God, and by taking deliberate steps.
I love this also:
Spot on.