Comparing Yourself To Others: Knowing Your Identity
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We as humans tend to compare ourselves to others and I think that it can be a detrimental habit. When you compare yourself to others there are a lot of issues that arise. Often times, this can be a bad because simply put, they are not you. It's even possible to lose your identity by comparing yourself with others. Especially, in the social media world.
I believe that by not comparing oursleves to others we can begin to feel confident, secure and knowing who you are in your own skin
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Greetings, dear Lydia
Beautiful post. I think the comparison we make in relation to our person and the other is not something that part "alone" out of our heads. It is raised in our childhood, when we have a caregiver (usually a parent) who is in comparing to another person. Usually the mothers who do this. It's a way to manipulate the children. For example, the mother wants the child view certain clothes. She speaks like this: look, your friend is an excellent daughter, because she wears clothes that her mother is talking about ... See how a simple phrase can generate a bad belief in the child and then get her to take it to the adult world when I grow up? This type of child suffering these manipulations will have more self-esteem tends low and always be comparing yourself with others, finding that following the idea of the people, will be someone accepted. The base of it all is this belief: "if I is equal to people will be accepted by them". That disturbs a lot of someone's life, because she never will tend to achieve your full potential because it will always be following the herd.
Thank you for the lovely post.
I wanted your opinion on what I wrote.
Good morning!!!!
I agree, I was just thinking more about the social media aspect really though. Like what people see on social media and they like to try to compete or copy it but it's not necessarily what people need in their lives because it can be detrimental.
I love your consistent positivity Alpha! Great encouraging message :) keep up the quality content, I love it!
TY Mr. @goldmatters! I appreciate it. It's how I live my life being positive...some people don't get it or think its fake but I just think life is too short to be anything else... p.s. I love Mene!
YOU LOVE MENĒ!! When I read that I forgot everything else!
I can't seem to watch the video, but yes totally agree with this!! It's a slippery slope when you start comparing yourself to others... and so so easy to do! But I'm all for each owning our uniqueness and embracing who we are!
Ah bummer... Yes especially on social media its easy to find yourself getting caught in that trap. Hope to see you on dtube some day soon!
this is a general problem at DTube right now.
I'm having the same issue with other videos on DTube but can actually watch this one successfully.
try clearing your internet temporary files in your browser and try again.
Yes, it's so dangerous to compare and compete with others. Instead, just focus on your craft and always be working to be a better version of yourself. The rest falls into place. It's easy to use the words. To say them. Even to think them. But to actually put into practice, for some, can take a lifetime. Good video Alpha.
Yeah your right. Sometimes you gotta evaluate whats really important in your life and focus on that and trust in God all the way through it 😀
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the thing is: this is a competitive society.
even the goals we set for ourselves, thinking there are customized for ourselves are based on success/happiness models of others.
we see other are happy when they are rich and have financial freedom and conclude that we will probably be as happy as they are when we have roughly the same amount of money or freedom as they have.
in order the technically specify the reaching of our goals to happiness - we actually copy those specs from those people.
and thus, in a way, we are competing with them.
if we all were living in a cave with food nearby and our loving spouse in the nearest cave - we might be as happy as can be, but we don't.
we live in a society and we can't ignore others and we can't unconscionably comparing ourselves to them and to some extent competing with them.
You make a very good point. I agree. I think there are definitely things we can learn from people or others who have walked the path before us, or succeeded in something. But I also think comparing to others in a sense of like "I need to be like that" then your not really living out "your" life but trying to be someone else. This can be a very bad behavior because people lose their own identity through it.
Agreed its silly to compare to others
Yeah it is but sometimes its unavoidable lol.
Cool @alphasteem
Wonderful to see such a point of view, expecially from the female side which in my opinion are the 1st target to be trapped in this illusory world of social media :-)
Maybe that's why so many breaks/Families destroyed ;-) cause of the comparison of their own Life's with others out there which are not inside your skin/mind/soul :-)
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Yeah I think your right about that it probably is mostly women but I think also the younger generation falls victim to it quite often with social media. Thanks for stopping by!
Lucian, are you Romanian?
I agree with you @alphasteem
I'm trying to understand if not the victimization comes from the ancestors ...
I've thought so too ... to ask where are you from. I've been following you between the first ones here on steemit. I'm from Sah'Arad :-) not the one from Israel ... the one from the Western side of Romania, Sah'Arad :-)
Regards and stay in touch and let's sustain/follow our blogs :-)
Absolutely
You end up losing individuality when you start comparing with others.
Very difficult habit to get rid off.
Nice post
Right? I think it's a real problem too especially for the younger generation when they're bombarded with what they should do or look like or whatever. Thanks for your comment!
Be your self and Fk the rest!
that works lol