Thanks @quillfire

Yes so true. Yes parenting has a lot to do with it. Being a Gen Xer I understand why our generation overdid it on the helicoptering and other things. I have a 7-year-old daughter. I used to do the helicoptering thing but I am grateful for my military background. It helps me a lot now.

Now I am giving her more and more responsibilities and let her solve things on her own.

I want her to grow up not being afraid of problems but to stop and think it through.

Yes divorce payed a big part as well. But it is funny divorce and single moms working as we grew up was also the norm for us but it made us more independent. Our parents had to leave us to make our own food and take care of ourselves while they went to work.

Thanks so much for your feedback and thoughts.