Hi @chbartist, what a nice post! I believe that everyone is responsible for everything happening in their lives. Everyone see life with different eyes. When someone is used to self-sabotage, all the options over the table won´t ever be enough to satisfy his/her expectations. Maybe, that kind of people need someone who can show them that not everything have to be as bad as they think, and show them that many positive things may result from those situations that might seem bad at the beginning.