What Happens When You Constantly Blame Yourself?

in #mindset5 years ago

Hello, dear friends!

When it comes to blaming oneself, there are two types of people:

Those who moderately and rationally blame themselves, and those who overdo it to the point of mental exhaustion.

When it comes to pointing fingers and takin on the blame, there are two types of situations:

There is one in which you are actually guilty of doing something wrong, and there is one where you blatantly blame yourself when you haven’t done anything wrong!


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Most people are generally decent and even actively try to be good men. That is why they tend to blame themselves at every given opportunity.

The truth is, blaming yourself isn’t really something wrong to do. Sometimes, we have to be hard on ourselves in order to learn our lesson.

But overdoing it can really be harmful to your mental health in the long run. Some people even get depression as a result of that.

There are people who carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, and whenever something remotely bad happens, they think that they are the ones who should be blamed for it.


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I am not going to talk about the obvious mental effects of blaming yourself for things that weren’t your fault.

What I will do instead is mention how each and every time you blame yourself, you are going to send a signal to your subconscious mind.

In time, you will be so guilt-ridden about anything that you cannot bear the thought of continuing to live in this world. All of this because you erroneously put the blame on your shoulders.

Some people are right to blame themselves, but even they shouldn’t overdo it.

Remember: You need to take lessons, not scold yourself relentlessly.

The first one will actually make you stronger and stop you from making the same mistake again, while the second one merely undermines your personality.


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One last thing to remember is that we are all humans and we make mistakes.

When we make mistakes, we should learn our lesson and move on.

Forgiving other people is a heroic feat, but forgiving yourself is something that only a handful of people are strong enough to do!

Try to be forgiving towards yourself, but do not forget to learn your lesson.

Scold yourself, but for the right amount of time.

Making mistakes in the journey of life is inevitable… it is our duty to learn from these mistakes and become a better person!

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Greetings @chbartits

Correction is the way we stop doing something wrong to start doing it the right way.

Now, if the correction is accompanied by a reprimand, the correction will be more effective, taking into account that the lack has its cost.

When we begin to assess the losses every time we are admonished, we will begin to develop criteria of care and attention in what we do.

We are human and as humans we tend to make mistakes, but it is also a human faculty to learn from mistakes, accept our responsibility and move forward with greater knowledge.

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Nice read as usual. It is good to be critical to your self to see possible mistakes you made but it has to be seen as a positive thing and not as a blame which could be harmful for your soul.

Greetings @chbartist, if many of us sin by feeling guilty for things that are not under our responsibility or escape the radius of reach where we act and cannot resolve and sometimes the economic situation makes it impossible for us to help. But what is certain is that many of us make mistakes and we have to learn to assume responsibility and learn to move forward just as we must learn to forgive when others make intentional mistakes or not, to be consistent with the word of our God. Happiness.

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@chbartist I tgink both type of the people you mention in the post are the victim of personality clash or lack of confidence and all it is due to the over reaction on their each action. If you are good in your work then it does't to expres the feelings beyond tge boundries. At the end ultimately tgey blam them selves

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True, I agree to your perspective and yes everything should be in limited amount that is only beneficial for us, we should not be hard on ourselves.
KEEP INSPIRING!

Realizing mistakes and errors are a part of self improvement and growth. Blaming oneself is ok as long as it does not hinder the ability to continue forward with your goals.

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Mistake a hummus nature but learn more things by mistake make a great personality don't blame self do better.

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Its alright to make mistakes because that's part of being human. But it's different when you are a mistakes all the time. The decisions made were all mistakes. Could it be that it's life or the person is just so dumb to make decision?

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Just say it, this person you described is a complete "dumbass".
Cheers

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Sometimes I do blame myself but I do that just to add positive to myself and not negative again

My brother, who e help??

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