RE: Triggered interaction and the generation of value
I am not sure what the result of being triggered is. I tend to be a very "angry" person, as in I am rude and crude. I deal with walk-in customers every day and it would be rare for me to not ask myself what the fuck do they want when there are other stores they could go irritate people at.
I, fortunately, get quiet and then very indifferent with a seething rage below the surface. This is mostly offline, as I grew up in a house where people hit and scream. I think on a personal level those are things I do not like but it would take a lot to get me to a point of "trigger" like I see some do ie the ones who do hit and scream. I tend to think if you hit someone then I don't see why leave them alive.
So to at least determine what I consider being triggered for me if I were to take that word seriously would be to earnestly confront the situation, be it via a very serious comment or maybe calmly explaining to someone just how pathetic I see them at work. Alas being indifferent and dismissive does well for me as I can just do my usual swearing and get through it or if possible just walk away.
Online people can be more infuriating because they are thick but also they wholly back whatever trash opinion it is they might have with no consideration. Online I have no reason to be triggered because essentially they don't exist if I don't look. If you do get into it with someone online though, flags for me is how passionate they are about certain things. I don't like when people get into that "shouty repeat yourself" mode as they try to force their opinions because my default is indifference and mostly what is right and not who is right.
Although obviously I would like to be right :)
I guess I took a long way around so to just clarify, things like what Whatsup describe the suicide threats and promoting products using tragedy or straightforward abuse are not triggers for me, I would move on and just note that they are the trash I wholly expected.
I think my biggest trigger is when people are being very self-righteous and they happen to be in my way / space... Maybe just being in my way / space is the trigger. Because I tend to already expect everything is shit, how can I be triggered :)
Do you enjoy being the angry part? out of curiosity.
Again out of curiosity, how is it possible to be indifferent and also be seething below the surface? I do understand both points, just not simultaneously. the anger/seething means affected, although perhaps that is your natural state :D but I would say that if it is, that is the effect of something in the past, not the way a person was born. Perhaps some people are born angry?
It is interesting to investigate our actions, reactions and general demeanor, but I guess the goal of life is to find a way that works for you/me, and that might diverge significantly.
from rock bottom, there is only up.
I tend to say that I am either angry or I am normal and anger keeps me from sad, I am aware of it but I don't ponder it as it is just how I have taught myself to be. It is a choice. I also understand that to remove sad you need to remove joy, I think anger and indifference replace those two. It may sound very robotic and even extreme which it is not, I am just very aware that anger is my goto. It is how I don't deal with things in a way.
You know how when you are speaking to someone utterly infuriating and you are trying to at least have them acknowledge your point but they keep doing whatever it is? So you resign yourself to calmly just keep the discussion going and you find that actually no matter how taboo it gets that it does not phase you? You are not offended or triggered by the topic and with that you can keep the discussion going with indifference to how you feel about the topic, but what you are controlling is being angry at how they are acting so you are avoiding going ad hominem on their asses... It makes sense in my head lol, how I can be indifferent and yet have rage.
True a lot of how I am and how I still try to actively model myself is to do with upbringing, so nurture over nature I would say.
Yip, there is only up.
Oh, you were at my family dinner tonight ;D
Yes, I know what you mean, because I have always been a proponent of playing the devil's advocate, so thick and callused skin gets developed. I don't get angry, I am more indifferent at these times and have learned to avoid the ad hominem attack relatively well early on, as if it is with people who are "sensitive" but one must see again, it is hard to ever come back from. People carry open wound baggage for years.
We all have our quirks, fortunately.
haha I was fortunate enough to only have dinner with my cats. Definitely agree you describe it perfectly. !tip 2
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