How counseling saved our 14-year marriage and our family
When you have been married for over 14 years like my husband and I have, chances are your relationship is not as focused to just the two of you anymore like how it used to be when you first started going out. Your priorities have certainly changed, and you have a lot more on your plate: bills, parenting, bills, conflict with in-laws, bills, and, most common to us Filipinos: (extended) family obligations, and yes, probably more bills. With all that, eventually your plate becomes full and that's when you start having marital problems.
We recently decided to seek counseling when it became too obvious that our problem wasn't something we could fix on our own anymore. We needed help.
For years, my husband would be the one to suggest counseling when marital issues come up and I'd say no because I'm normally a private person (things have obviously changed since I can now blog about stuff like this LOL). This time around, I was the one who suggested counseling - much to his surprise. But I felt that we owe it to our kids and to ourselves to give this marriage our best shot. Or just do the counseling for closure's sake, if nothing else.
And we're both very glad we did. I know counseling isn't for everyone but for my husband and I, it brought us back together. We both got to express our frustrations and expectations with each other that we otherwise would've kept bottled up for fear that it would offend or hurt the other's feelings.
We definitely appreciate each other more now and we are back to becoming each other's best friend. We realized we are still very much in love and we also have 2 amazing kids who both mean the world to us. What more could we ask for, really?
If your marriage or relationship are going through a rough patch, and you just seem to be at a stalemate, give counseling a try. Getting a third-party's perspective will make it easier for you to understand each other more. Or at least it helped us.
And remember to live your life to the fullest and regret nothing. Unless you did something illegal or morally unacceptable, then you should regret that shit but otherwise, just carry on and just enjoy life ♡♡♡