Your Marriage: Your in-laws.

Earlier this week, I posted about ways we can handle problems in our marriages.
The past and this series focus basically on marriage - Godly ways of dwelling with your beloved. When you get married, you will undoubtedly have another set of people added to and become part of your responsibilities except one marries a ghost. Some societies would believe in such existence especially here in Africa, where people unknowingly have communion with wandering spirits. Your wife's parents become your parent and yours hers**

In-laws are a one of big challenge in marriage if one does not have the serenity to handle the storm. So much tranquillity and wisdom is required to make one's marriage placid. Having bad in-laws might be very frustrating if you don't have what it takes to handle situations.

In-laws

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Knowing that when you marry a person, you marry him with his background, family situation, financial situation, health situation and all. You in-law is closely related to your spouse. They are his parents or guardians.
The Bible admonishes your spouse to honour his/her parents or parent figures and you must do the same.

Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) that it may be well with the, and thou mayest live long on the earth. Ephesians 6:2-3

Your in-laws are like adopted parents to you. So you must believe God to love them unconditionally as in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 even when you think they don't like you.

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Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail: whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

No spouse should make the home of his parents his real home. The Bible admonishes the couple to leave and cleave to each other.
Try not discriminate between parents as to care, upkeep, finances, etc. Recognise the reality that not all sets of parents have the same needs, so do not try to make their needs identical. For example, one parent may need remittances but the the other may need be remembered only on birthdays.

Do not complain about your spouse to your parents. **They're likely to be biased against him/her. Let love cover the multitude of your partner's fault and seek pastoral counsel when you need help.

Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covers all sins. Proverb 10:12

Usually, the woman may prompt the husband on care for the home. He should provide these needs with love. Remember that your newly created family comes first: He who does not care for his own household is worse than an infidel.

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worst than an infidel. 1 Timothy 5:8

Know that your in-laws can do unacceptable things just like your parents. The difference is that you may not be able to tell your in-laws your real sentiments without stirring up trouble: so learn to overlook certain things.

Be yourself with your in-laws so far as you're not offensive. Do not allow your parents to develop a habit of saying bad things about your spouse to you directly or indirectly. Remember you're one. Your in-laws can pronounce a blessing on you depending on how you treat them. Naomi blessed her daughter-in-law when she had to return to her own people.

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And Naomi said unto her own daughter-in-law, Go, return each to her mother's house; the Lord deal kindly with you, as ye have dealt with the dead, and with me. Ruth 1:8.

Hoping you will read this over and over and apply it accordingly.

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